myspace dating

**Josh!** · 09-06-2006, 01:12 PM

So I'm single as of a month now, and while I've had some success out and about, my friend is challenging me to "maximize all opportunities" and get online. I've been generally adverse to internet dating in the past, it just seems really unnatural and slightly stalker-ish. Plus, if I'm going to pay to try and date, I'd rather be paying for beer than to look at some girl's profile.

This weekend we compromised on giving myspace.com a shot (it's free). He made me promise to make a good-faith effort to contact a few girls, so I will. I guess I have nothing to lose, right?

Anyone here try that? Are there any "dos" or "don'ts"? I imagine that any good looking girl who posts a profile saying they're "single" and interested in "dating" gets multiple queries a day (Then again, any good looking girl in a bar gets hit on multiple times a night, too). I know I need to be interesting and different, no problem. But what am I missing? Should I just send a message, or a message and a friend request?

Ideas?

**Craig C** · 09-06-2006, 01:13 PM

Originally Posted by psidx

So I'm single as of a month now, and while I've had some success out and about, my friend is challenging me to "maximize all opportunities" and get online. I've been generally adverse to internet dating in the past, it just seems really unnatural and slightly stalker-ish. Plus, if I'm going to pay to try and date, I'd rather be paying for beer than to look at some girl's profile.

This weekend we compromised on giving myspace.com a shot (it's free). He made me promise to make a good-faith effort to contact a few girls, so I will. I guess I have nothing to lose, right?

Anyone here try that? Are there any "dos" or "don'ts"? I imagine that any good looking girl who posts a profile saying they're "single" and interested in "dating" gets multiple queries a day (Then again, any good looking girl in a bar gets hit on multiple times a night, too). I know I need to be interesting and different, no problem. But what am I missing? Should I just send a message, or a message and a friend request?

Ideas?

And you agreed to this why?

**RegularJoe** · 09-06-2006, 01:15 PM

i've had a fair amount of luck meeting friends and such there. but there's no tried-and-true approach. just like in a bar you say "X" to one girl and she'll swoon and say it to another she'll slap you, you just have to do your best.

read the profiles, see if there's anything that you can connect with. ask questions. that kind of stuff.

**Jerome Gibbons** · 09-06-2006, 01:16 PM

Originally Posted by Craig C

And you agreed to this why?

Cuz he was made to promise!!!!!!

**Jef UK** · 09-06-2006, 01:18 PM

My friends date off of MySpace all the time. Nothing that's lasted too long, but hey. If someone lists themselves as single and looking to date, chat them up a bit and then send them a nice message about meeting for a drink.

**Josh!** · 09-06-2006, 01:18 PM

because he's my friend. I honestly don't expect anything to come of this, but if I'm going to do it, I may as well do it.

**Josh!** · 09-06-2006, 01:22 PM

and shit, who the hell knows, might get some funny stories. should I message or message/friend?

**Smokinblues** · 09-06-2006, 01:25 PM

I would start by looking up old friends and reconnecting with people you already know, and then maybe using them as icebreakers for people on their friend lists.

**TRILL, THE CARBON BASED LIFEFORM** · 09-06-2006, 01:27 PM

Well... I'm not sure why to be honest.
DC's demographics:
Males: 269,366 (47.1%), Females: 302,693 (52.9%)
http://www.city-data.com/city/Washin...-Columbia.html

**Josh!** · 09-06-2006, 01:35 PM

I know, I'm having no problem out and meeting people. None.

Here's the other part, to get slightly more personal: My friend is about to get married, and I think his fiancee is worrying about his single friends. Most of her friends are already married. None of his close friends are. (Most of us are single). I think a lot of this is coming from her, who doesn't want, in a year, him to be hanging out with guys who are still single and want to go out, etc. I'm also the best man at the wedding, and I think that kind of worries her, too, given my reputation (we're talking about a long weekend in Amsterdam for the bachelor party, but neither of them know that).