Get Married - - Have Kids

[J. R. Scherer]

It never stops.

When you're dating it's, "When are you two you going to get married?" Then to the kids issue that started the thread. Later, as the kids age, I assume it turns into, "So is Mike/Jane going to go to college? Which one? They really should go to college."

Eventually, I suppose, you get asked "Have you choosen a casket color and burial plot yet?"

I'm being cremated, Donny-style.

[ty gorton]

Most people can't fathom that there is any other "real" reason to be here other than having kids.

Tell them to get a hobby

[Brian Defferding]

I used to hear that one a lot. One of the most assholish things a person can say, but it would always come from the sweetest people.

Yep. And when you say "I'm pretty happy being single" they're like "Yeeaaah, right. You just haven't found the right one" or something like that. It's so hard for some people to comprehend it.

[saymama]

I'm being cremated, Donny-style.

I don't know what donny style means, but i'm being cremated as well! I have told everyone in my family many times over!

[james michael]

marraige is for procreation you fucking idiots!
thats why i cant get married!
dont you people listen to the news?

[Mylazycat]

Most people can't fathom that there is any other "real" reason to be here other than having kids.

Tell them to get a hobby

Bingo. I 100% endorse this post.

Many people, especially older woman, have spent the greater part of their lives raising kids. It consumed them 24 and became their world to the point it was all they knew. Now, they want/expect you to do the same.

[gaspar]

Luckily, my family has pretty much decided that we aren't having kids after asking about for the first 5 years of marriage. It's one of those things...I'm working on my PhD, my wife is considering grad school once I'm done, it's just not in the cards right now. If it were to happen, that's all well and good, but we're definitely not seeking kids. Plus, working with them (as others have stated) is a great reason to not want one.

I also don't understand why the people with shithead kids are the ones who want to know when you're going to have them. I've been very tempted to say "I've seen how yours turned out...you really think I want to deal with that?!?" but I figure it would ruin many family relationships.

Some friends of ours considered the "I'm sterile/barren...thanks for bringing up a sore subject" but decided that would just lead to more uncomfortable conversations.

I really don't know what the fascination is with being such asshats about forcing the kid subject on people. I'm thinking about starting to change the subject to other "none of your business" type conversations when it comes up from now on.

Them: "When are you going to have kids?"
Me: "How often do you give your husband a blowjob?"
Them: "..."

[Mylazycat]

marraige is for procreation you fucking idiots!
thats why i cant get married!
dont you people listen to the news?

Seriousy, many, many people think sex and marraige is for procreation only. It's one of the reasons some folks are against gay marriage, because it's a union where the sex and the marriage can't produce kids and that, in their minds, makes it wrong and unacceptable.

[Natty P]

Well, probably because it's a natural question to ask a married couple.

[Mylazycat]

Well, probably because it's a natural question to ask a married couple.

The first time, but the next 499 times? For years?