URGENT: Does This Make Me Seem Weird/Stalkerish?

[Master Jack Rabbitt]

She loves me (and we are best friends) ... she's not in love with me. And we both know it's because she is unhappy with herself and doesn't feel like she can be in love with anyone.

Been there. She said she needed time to find herself. I gave her the time. Now we're both happy and in love... with other people. So the moral of the story is.... um, no idea. Nevermind.

But I agree its a mistake to send the letter.

[Smokinblues]

I disagree. It's not lack of gumption. It's clear thought in the absence of raw emotion.

I understand that. I'm not saying that's what it is, I'm saying that's the perception it creates.

[Rod Nunley]

It's funny. I posted this on another board full of female posters and they are ALL saying I HAVE to send it.

[Master Jack Rabbitt]

It's funny. I posted this on another board full of female posters and they are ALL saying I HAVE to send it.

yeah... leave it to girls to know what they really want...

[Smokinblues]

It's funny. I posted this on another board full of female posters and they are ALL saying I HAVE to send it.

because they all want to get a letter like that. in theory. but they also all say they want to date nice guys too. this isn't a movie. sending of the big heartfelt letter isnt' going lead to the big happy finish walking down the beach into the sunset. sending it right now is just going to make a bad situation worse. give it time.

[amy]

She loves me (and we are best friends) ... she's not in love with me. And we both know it's because she is unhappy with herself and doesn't feel like she can be in love with anyone.

Until she comes to terms with that, she doesn't need to be in a relationship. Give her time to work on herself without adding more baggage. Be there for her but put the relationship on the back burner for now.

You can't make her happy, nobody can.

[Smokinblues]

Until she comes to terms with that, she doesn't need to be in a relationship. Give her time to work on herself without adding more baggage. Be there for her but put the relationship on the back burner for now.

You can't make her happy, nobody can.

This is wisdom.

[amy]

because they all want to get a letter like that. in theory. but they also all say they want to date nice guys too. this isn't a movie. sending of the big heartfelt letter isnt' going lead to the big happy finish walking down the beach into the sunset. sending it right now is just going to make a bad situation worse. give it time.

wholeheartedly agree.






They see Rod as the Knight in shining armor, the fairy tale if you will. This is far from it. She needs time to heal herself. Once she does that and if the feelings are still there, then give her the letter. Hell, if it makes you feel better continue to write them, just don't give them to her yet. Wait until her head is on straight.

[Smokinblues]

and Rod, I swear I'm not just trying to rain on your parade. I'm really not. I'm only saying any of this because I've written that letter before. I've sent that letter before. It's best just to give her the space she needs right now, and work on yourself. I know it doesn't feel that way, but it is.

[Taxman]

because they all want to get a letter like that. in theory. but they also all say they want to date nice guys too. this isn't a movie. sending of the big heartfelt letter isnt' going lead to the big happy finish walking down the beach into the sunset. sending it right now is just going to make a bad situation worse. give it time.

I honestly feel that movies and TV impact people's expectations in situations like this.