assume everybody is straight?

[Lester C.]

This guy is a stranger so you have no idea how he'll react if you ask him out. Canadians are known for never wanting to offend anyone, unless they playing hockey a startling transformation that, anyway you have no idea how he will react as you don't know him. Keep that in mind and keep in mind that there are men out there who will preceve another guy asking them out as an assult and react in what they preceve to be self-defense.

I think Rev's advice nailed it. Filrt with the guy. If he is intrested he will filrt back, if not he will think you are just being friendly.

[Kedd]

If you're not sure, ask them to coffee first.

That's not seen as asking someone out?

[Treacle]

That's not seen as asking someone out?

It can also be done under the auspices of friendship.

When I meet people I think are cool, I often suggest that we grab coffee sometime.

[Tyr]

Same way I ended up in bed with the "straight" loader-driver in the warehouse of a big company I used to work for.

we eyeballed each other thru the "cage" (where I worked doing data-input) every time he drove by. . bumped into him in the break room and asked if he wanted to grab coffee after work.

fucked our brains out.

only happened that one time, and yeah, it was a little awkward seeing him at work after that. . but hey, ya shit where you eat, ya gotta live with the smell.

Once again your ability to pick up manly men amazes me oh disco diva one. Come! Tell us the tale of how you turned down the construction worker from the village people.

I myself am pretty sure that most people are more interested then me in front end part of the the baby assembly line, even when no babies can actually be made.

[Lester C.]

Once again your ability to pick up manly men amazes me oh disco diva one. Come! Tell us the tale of how you turned down the construction worker from the village people.

I myself am pretty sure that most people are more interested the me in front end part of the the baby assembly line, even when no babies can actually be made.

You should read the posts where Bert and Keith interacted for the first time and somehow got on the topic describing their trysts with gay porn starts.

[mcolford]

I have a good friend (who is a straight woman) who always assumes everyone she meets is a lesbian until proven otherwise. I thought she was a lesbian when I first met her. She even referred to her husband as her partner.

[Phantom Eagle]

It can also be done under the auspices of friendship.

When I meet people I think are cool, I often suggest that we grab coffee sometime.

Exactly.

"Hey we should go out for beers sometime," is not always an invitation to a sexual encounter. Sometimes it really means "Hey we should go out for beers sometime." Since straight dudes say it to each other all of the time.

[Flamebird]

Question for the gay and lesbian posters. Do you ever ask somebody out if you aren't certain about their orientation?

I'm a bit conflicted. On the one hand, there's nothing wrong with being gay, so there shouldn't really be any harm in asking. On the other hand, the last thing I want to do is make somebody uncomfortable. Being asked out by a guy is going to make some guys uncomfortable, and I try to respect that. So I basically just assume everybody is straight until they say otherwise.

I was coming home from the bar this morning, walking through the West End and noticed this smokin hot guy having a yard sale. Stopped and pretended to be browsing so I could check him out. Meheheheh.

He had a French Canadian accent too, which just made him hotter.

Talked a little, just about the stuff he was selling, but I really would have liked to ask him out. I don't know. Maybe it's inappropriate to ask somebody out at a yard sale regardless of orientation. Opinions?

There are straight people?!?!

Once again your ability to pick up manly men amazes me oh disco diva one. Come! Tell us the tale of how you turned down the construction worker from the village people.

Hell, he picked up a whole table of guys at a restaurant in Dallas. . . Show-off.

I have a good friend (who is a straight woman) who always assumes everyone she meets is a lesbian until proven otherwise. I thought she was a lesbian when I first met her. She even referred to her husband as her partner.

I AM NOT a Lesbian. . . I just play one on tv.

[Kedd]

It can also be done under the auspices of friendship.

When I meet people I think are cool, I often suggest that we grab coffee sometime.

I'm socially inept, so the idea of inviting someone out to a one on one encounter freaks my shit out. When meeting new people I'm more likely to invite them to group functions. Either that or I make a general invitation to "Hang out whenever." I dunno.

Exactly.

"Hey we should go out for beers sometime," is not always an invitation to a sexual encounter. Sometimes it really means "Hey we should go out for beers sometime." Since straight dudes say it to each other all of the time.

I'm horrible at meeting new people so I tend to not invite people out for anything and I rarely accept invitations to do stuff. People creep me out, man. *shudder*

[bert]

Hell, he picked up a whole table of guys at a restaurant in Dallas. . . Show-off.

well. . I didn't actually "pick them up". .but I did get them to pose for a picture.

and you know I COULD have ended up with em if I wanted to


man. . that was a yummy table of woofy bears and otters!