How good are you about affecting positive change in your life?

[changingshades]

Without getting too much into it, I'm becoming more and more aware of my faults as a human being, and all I really do is look at it, acknowledge it, sigh, and keep on doing it. I want to be a better person, but I'm just too damn lazy. So, how good are you, once you know something needs to change, at changing your life?

[Hollingsworth]

Take a cue from your screen name. Just get off your ass and make whatever changes you need to make. If your life isn't the way you want it to be, you're the only one that can fix it. Laziness will get you nowhere in this life. Really nowhere.

[Treacle]

Change or die, man.

I've made a number of really significant changes in my life in the past year. They were all hard because upsetting an equilibrium kind of goes against my natural tendency, but they were all necessary.

[schizorabbit]

I used to have major anger issues. Would try to start fights with strangers--I'd hulk out in public when somebody pissed me off--and when I got into arguments with girlfriends, I'd go all Christian Bale on 'em. Once, during a fight about how lazy I was (she noted, for example, that she did all the cooking), I got a cartoon of eggs, and then proceeded to throw the eggs, one at a time, at the wall of our bedroom and yelled out, "Look, I'm making breakfast!!!!" A trip to the jail after fighting a friend in public put an end to that. You do a lot of soul searching after hanging out in a small, airless prison cell with big, scary black dudes looking down at you.

I used to cheat on my girlfriends a lot as well, and in connection with that, I was the biggest liar I knew. And when the shit hit the fan, and I lost a lot of friends because of an epic break-up, it still took me over a year to overcome the deeply rooted denial and realize that, yes, I was a selfish asshole.

[costello]

I'm actually pretty good at making positive changes, but right now I feel like I'm getting dumped on from all sides. Most of the problems are probably in my head, but damn.

[AndrewG]

Once, during a fight about how lazy I was (she noted, for example, that she did all the cooking), I got a cartoon of eggs, and then proceeded to throw the eggs, one at a time, at the wall of our bedroom and yelled out, "Look, I'm making breakfast!!!!"

[danlomb]

I'm currently revamping the way I tackle life, and it's incredible how well it's working.
Where I would used to frown and scowl and keep my head down hunched over, I now stand upright, and smile. That's just one change I've made out of many.
People respond to me more positively, making me feel more positive, etc.

My whole life I've been stuck in this horrible cycle of being miserable because people thought I was miserable which would make me miserable which would make people think I was miserable - etc.
But lately I'd just gotten so sick of being left behind by all that shit, that I just bought a book on body language and attraction, and picked up some tricks to get people to respond to you positively, making you more positive, making it easier to feel positive, etc.

Once you take the gamble - you see the 'positive' carousel of life spinning so fast in front of you, and while it's scary and a challenge to jump on, once you do, you just let the momentum take you and enjoy the ride.

[Dark Sasha]

I feel that other people are enabling my life script and that puts me into a shame spiral.

[jason hissong]

I completely understand your frustration.

In the last eight months I have enjoyed my life more than I think I ever have. Do I still get frustrated, angry and depressed? Sometimes, sure. But now my good days are way better, and my bad days are way less bad.

What happened? I got busy. When I got busy, I got better.

That's the simple version. If you want to know the details, we can talk about that via email or PM.

[RegHorsten]

Not good. I should've bailed out of my marriage years before we actully did split. I should've left this job also a long time ago and got back to the USA which I miss incredibly.

Changingshades let me ask you something are you around your 30's in age?
These ideas tend to manifest in men around this time is why I am asking.
Or is it more to do with your living in another country?