Need help. Queston for boarders who have kids

[BriRedfern]

Explain that kids can be mean and hurtful becasue they are insecure of themselves and it makes them feel better to make someone else feel bad about themselves. It's a defense mechanism and anyone with traits that don't fit into the 'norm' are easy targets. Tell her she is beutiful and you love her and it doesn't matter what the kids say because they are just lashing out for other reasons. It has nothing to do with her, they have just decided to use her to make themselves feel better.


Or buy her an ice cream. It always makes me feel better.

If your sister is being made fun of for being fat, do not buy her icecream.

The rest is absolutely good advice, as is the prent/kid playdate advice.

[aWalkingApe]

My son is almost 6, and I just put him in a new school. Now he's a boy, so I'd probably treat my chubby little daughter differently, but I've honestly told him not to take shit from anybody.

Make friends, find kids that you have things in common with. At this age, they got to find kids they can talk and play with.

Don't talk to anyone you don't like.

Luckily, the main problem he has is arguing with friends that he does have about how so and so made him mad while playing, or how he doesn't like sharing toys.

[BronxRonin]

See if she can seek out the guidance counselor and request a mediation with the other kids and maybe the guidance counselor can hook her up in a group of peers.A group of peers that meet once a week to discuss issue such as these .But this should be reported.If not it'll keep happening.

http://www.operationrespect.org/

[Wastrel]

teach her to fight.

[BriRedfern]

See if she can seek out the guidance counselor and request a mediation with the other kids and maybe the guidance counselor can hook her up in a group of peers.A group of peers that meet once a week to discuss issue such as these .But this should be reported.If not it'll keep happening.

http://www.operationrespect.org/

Good advice if you want her to be even MORE ostracized.

[Jim.]

Buy her some cans of slim fast.








Then have her chuck em at the kids.

[BronxRonin]

See if she can seek out the guidance counselor and request a mediation with the other kids and maybe the guidance counselor can hook her up in a group of peers.A group of peers that meet once a week to discuss issue such as these .But this should be reported.If not it'll keep happening.

http://www.operationrespect.org/

Good advice if you want her to be even MORE ostracized.

Dude let me see what your advice would be? WTF?? its my profession and i'm pretty successful in my job.Been doing this for 11 years.I've helped so many kids and now to this day they come back to visit me years later to thank me for my help. So what advice you'd suggest?

[RebootedCorpse]

See if she can seek out the guidance counselor and request a mediation with the other kids and maybe the guidance counselor can hook her up in a group of peers.A group of peers that meet once a week to discuss issue such as these .But this should be reported.If not it'll keep happening.

http://www.operationrespect.org/

Great advice. But most schools don't have something like this.

[BronxRonin]

See if she can seek out the guidance counselor and request a mediation with the other kids and maybe the guidance counselor can hook her up in a group of peers.A group of peers that meet once a week to discuss issue such as these .But this should be reported.If not it'll keep happening.

http://www.operationrespect.org/

Great advice. But most schools don't have something like this.

Most schools have guidance counselors...and the kids need to know there is a safe place in the school a place where someone will assist them in situations such as this.Most guidance counselors are trained or have resources to address the needs of the kids.

[lyra]

My son(almost 11) is also chunky. I have cut back on his TV/video game time...and we have been working on trying to keep the weeds outside to a small jungle instead of a huge fucking rain forest...he doesn't like sports, so I keep things low-impact.

He doesn't really care what people think...about how he looks. This is a kid that'll wear his shirt backwards all day and not care when somebody points it out. There are kids that dress to the nines like every day...I saw a kid with plugs in his hears last week. Crikey. My kid would wear sweat pants every day if I let him.

We did have a bad day last week. I picked him up and he burst into tears as soon as he sat down. It was about "doing it". He was balancing something on his finger and yells out "I'm doing it". Everyone laughed and it really hurt his feelings. He doesn't understand why simple words are slang for mating. It hurt him to be laughed at. I mommied him and made him smile. Reminded him to either laugh or ignore(It's not fun when the bullies aren't getting the reaction they want). Most important, he should remember how he felt before laughing at someone else in the same situation.

He was questioned by the principal, because my ex's son is fucking with one of his friends. I asked if he was being bullied, too and he said..."No, I run and hide." He also gives little Tim the signal to do the same when the bad kids come, but sometimes Tim isn't fast enough. There will always be bad people. They must be dealt with appropriately. I am one that gets angry. My son avoids confrontation. I think there is a a place in between that is best...I hope to show it to him...with words and actions.

Give her a hug from me. Don't get crazy with dieting. Make changes in food(kinds and amounts) for everyone and exercise with her. We womenfolk are made to feel, if we aren't thin, we aren't pretty and I think these things begin to grow when we are very small. Food becomes a safe place or, when older, drugs keep weight off too easy.

Give her tools.
Give her love.
Make her smile.
I'm so glad you care about her.
Really, really.