Wedding rings and proper etiquette?

[Ethan Van Sciver]

My wife insisted that I get a new ring, since she'd rather I have a platinum band instead of the yellow gold one that I got when we first got married.

I got one, and my hands are now shrinking. Or I'm losing finger pudge. I don't know. I don't blame it on the new ring. That's not what I'm saying. My question is, is it wrong to temporarily wear your wedding band on your middle finger? Or is that offensive?

[GelfXIII]

Dunno. I never wear mine. I cant stand any jewelry against my skin.

Except a watch.

My wife is cool with that. She doesn't have to go barefoot and pregnant, I dont have to wear a ring... it's more or less an even trade. :lol:

[amy]

That's up to you. I'd suggest asking your wife how she feels about it if you want somebody' opinion. After all, it's symbolizes your marriage and vows to each other.

To hell what anybody else thinks.

[The Marvel Girl]

is it wrong to temporarily wear your wedding band on your middle finger? Or is that offensive?


Well, I'd imagine that she'd rather have you wear it on your middle finger then not wear it at all. If you try to keep it on the finger it's on now you might lose it, and that's far worse if you ask me. You may want to think of having it resized though.

Or you may want to consider switching hands.

In Western cultures a wedding ring is traditionally worn on the ring finger. According to tradition, the wedding ring is worn on the left ring finger because the vein in the left ring finger, referred to as the vena amoris was believed to be directly connected to the heart, a symbol of love.

In medieval Europe, the Christian wedding ceremony placed the ring in sequence on the index, middle, and ring fingers of the left hand, representing the trinity — God the Father, God the Son, and God the Holy Spirit. The ring was then left on the ring finger. In a few European countries, the ring is worn on the left hand prior to marriage, then transferred to the right during the ceremony. A Greek Orthodox bride wears the ring on the left hand prior to the ceremony, then moves it to the right hand after the wedding. (it's true! In very strict Greek Orthodox families there is no engagement ring, rather the woman is presented with a wedding ring right from the start. She wears it on her left hand and then moves it after the wedding...me? I want a rock dang it!)

In Norway and in Austria the wedding ring is worn on the ring finger on the right hand.

In the Jewish wedding ceremony, the groom places the ring on the bride's index finger, and not ring finger; the ring is usually moved to the ring finger after the ceremony.


So you may want to think of just switching hands? I know mine are different sizes.

[Corey A.]

Can you get it resized?

[TheTravis!]

Better eat some more cheesburgers and regain that finger pudge, Bubba.

[Taxman]

If it is on your middle finger, I do not believe it is still a wedding band. At least, it would not be reasonable to assume that most would see it as such.

[Agent Desmond]

Eh, I see nothing wrong with it. Especially if she knows the reason why.

[The Marvel Girl]

If it is on your middle finger, I do not believe it is still a wedding band. At least, it would not be reasonable to assume that most would see it as such.

Of course it's still a wedding band! And besides, who cares how others see it, it's really something between him and his wife anyway. I know some couples that wear their wedding bands on chains around their necks, doesn't make them any less of "wedding bands"

[Brad N.]

I'm not one for jewelry, man. I only wear my ring out of respect for my wife when I wake up or when I'm leaving the house in the morning. But I take it off at night.

[Taxman]

Of course it's still a wedding band! And besides, who cares how others see it, it's really something between him and his wife anyway. I know some couples that wear their wedding bands on chains around their necks, doesn't make them any less of "wedding bands"Maybe Ethan or Mrs. Ethan care how others see it.

At any rate, resizing is probably the best solution.

[amy]

Maybe Ethan or Mrs. Ethan care how others see it.




He must care since since he started the thread.

[The Jack Rabbitt]

My wife insisted that I get a new ring, since she'd rather I have a platinum band instead of the yellow gold one that I got when we first got married.

I got one, and my hands are now shrinking. Or I'm losing finger pudge. I don't know. I don't blame it on the new ring. That's not what I'm saying. My question is, is it wrong to temporarily wear your wedding band on your middle finger? Or is that offensive?

Not offensive. Possibly odd, though. Just take the fucker off completely if its bothering you till you can get it sized.

[Sharis the Bunny]

He did ask me. I've been begging him to get it re-sized for MONTHS. Tomorrow, I'm dragging his butt to the Jewler's. As long as he wears it somewhere oh his body, I'm happy. Of course, Ethan balked when I suggested he use it for a nipple ring. Wuss!

[Taxman]

He did ask me. I've been begging him to get it re-sized for MONTHS. Tomorrow, I'm dragging his butt to the Jewler's. As long as he wears it somewhere oh his body, I'm happy. Of course, Ethan balked when I suggested he use it for a nipple ring. Wuss!:shock:

Mrs. Ethan?

[The Jack Rabbitt]

:shock:

Mrs. Ethan?


:eek:
Whoa... either this new poster kicks serious ass... or we're dealing with Van Sciver's better half.

Or both, I suppose.

[Thomas Mauer]

:eek:
Whoa... either this new poster kicks serious ass... or we're dealing with Van Sciver's better half.

Or both, I suppose.
And speaking Russian, too!

[The Marvel Girl]

He did ask me. I've been begging him to get it re-sized for MONTHS. Tomorrow, I'm dragging his butt to the Jewler's. As long as he wears it somewhere oh his body, I'm happy. Of course, Ethan balked when I suggested he use it for a nipple ring. Wuss!


:rofl:

That was great. Thank you for that Sharis.

(this is constance btw) Welcome to the insanity. :crazy:

[Sharis the Bunny]

:eek:
Whoa... either this new poster kicks serious ass... or we're dealing with Van Sciver's better half.

Or both, I suppose.

Both. Definitely both ;-)

PS: HI, Constance!

[The Marvel Girl]

Tomorrow, I'm dragging his butt to the Jewler's.


So, problem solved?

[The Jack Rabbitt]

Both. Definitely both ;-)


Sounds about right.




hmmm... seems I'm not the only one around here with a rabbit/bunny schtick now...

[GelfXIII]

hmmm... seems I'm not the only one around here with a rabbit/bunny schtick now...


Bunnies aren't just cute like everybody supposes
They got them hoppy legs and twitchy little noses
And what's with all the carrots?
What do they need such good eyesight for anyway?
Bunnies, bunnies
It must be bunnies

maybe midgets?

[The Marvel Girl]

maybe midgets?

Eh, if you've heard one midget joke you've heard them all...most of em are pretty short.

[Taxman]

So, problem solved?As far as I am concerned, this isn't resolved until pics are posted of Ethan with his nipple ring.

[GelfXIII]

Eh, if you've heard one midget joke you've heard them all...most of em are pretty short.


BWA HAHAHAAA..


good one!

[Generic Poster]

It only matters that your wife wear her ring. That way, everyone knows she's your property and you own her.

[Sharis the Bunny]

As far as I am concerned, this isn't resolved until pics are posted of Ethan with his nipple ring.

That's right!!!

[jacklaire]

I am engaged..although I do not have an engagement ring. My husband to be does not believe in rings. I think an engagement ring is a waste of money if you have been with the person for YEARS!

Now we are planning our wedding and he refuses to have an exchange of rings. He is not against rings...he is against what people think when they see a ring on a person's finger. People make judgements. Do you think this is weird? Im a little nervous of what my wedding guests will think.

any ideas of how to do a wedding ceremony without a ring ceremony? I know people do a "rose ritual" where a rose is exchanged...any other ideas?

HELP!

[The Jack Rabbitt]

I am engaged..although I do not have an engagement ring. My husband to be does not believe in rings. I think an engagement ring is a waste of money if you have been with the person for YEARS!

Now we are planning our wedding and he refuses to have an exchange of rings. He is not against rings...he is against what people think when they see a ring on a person's finger. People make judgements. Do you think this is weird? Im a little nervous of what my wedding guests will think.

any ideas of how to do a wedding ceremony without a ring ceremony? I know people do a "rose ritual" where a rose is exchanged...any other ideas?

HELP!

Well, you can always try to pull off the pretend ring ceremony (which people will do if a ring is lost directly before the wedding), in which you simply pretend to exchange rings.

That's all I got.

Welcome to the board, though.

[jacklaire]

the thing is...he doesn't believe in a ring. A fake ceremony would certainly fill that weird gap in the service...but I'm not sure if people will buy it. I just wish there was something else to do, or hear from other people who might have experienced something as bizarre as this! LOL

[SCOURGE]

the thing is...he doesn't believe in a ring. A fake ceremony would certainly fill that weird gap in the service...but I'm not sure if people will buy it. I just wish there was something else to do, or hear from other people who might have experienced something as bizarre as this! LOL


How about Ring Pops (remember those)? He is not opposed to Ring Candy is he?

[dEnny!]

My wife insisted that I get a new ring, since she'd rather I have a platinum band instead of the yellow gold one that I got when we first got married.

I got one, and my hands are now shrinking. Or I'm losing finger pudge. I don't know. I don't blame it on the new ring. That's not what I'm saying. My question is, is it wrong to temporarily wear your wedding band on your middle finger? Or is that offensive?

PLATINUM??? Aren't you Mr. Hoity Toity Fancy Pants!

[Sharis the Bunny]

PLATINUM??? Aren't you Mr. Hoity Toity Fancy Pants!

:Oops: It's my fault, I got a new ring a while back, and I wanted ours to match. Well, coordinate at least.

[dEnny!]

:Oops: It's my fault, I got a new ring a while back, and I wanted ours to match. Well, coordinate at least.

WOMEN!

I bought my wife an oval diamond ring in a gold setting and had been working to pay it off for months before I finally proposed to her in October (23rd of 1999). I had set the date of my proposal, was planning everything out, and a few weeks before while looking at jewelry she says to me, "I think I want a platinum setting and wedding band." :shock:

:-x TOO LATE! TOO FREAKING LATE THAT SHIP HAS SAILED LADY!

In the past she had asked for a different setting because my jeweler put it in a six prong setting and she feels it makes it look like a marquis cut. He said he'd, "only recommend putting it in a 4 prong setting if it was platinum." Et tu? *sigh

[Sharis the Bunny]

No, Denny, it's not that bad, I promise!

I recently received my great-grandmother's ring, so I started wearing THAT one, but it's platinum, not gold, so I wanted Ethan's to match. Otherwise, the groupies might not recognize...know what I'm sayin'? *wink*