i need advice

[james michael]

iv ebeen working for three days at my new job, and today was the fiorst day that someone who's "training" me has actually told me what i need to do to make what im doing successful, and i was very appreciative for it, and i thanked...
well, theres an asst manager named donna, who everyone hates, apparently, and after i was asked to do dishes by another team member, i did them just as he asked me to...

she saw what i had done, and started telling me i was doing them wrong, and very rudely berated me while telling me how to do it right...
i stayed silent for a second or two after her bitchfest, and loioked at her and said (this is verbatim), "donna, i sont mind being corrected, but if youre going to do it, the least you could do is speak to me like i were a human being", to which she replied, "well, most human beings have copmmon sense enough to know that if something looks like something else, they go together" then showed me where to store the clean dishes, while talking to me like i was stupid for not doing it in the first place... thats when sam (the guy who had me wash the dishes) told her that he was the one who told me to leave them like that, that he would finish the job... she scolded him, telling him that that wasnt the way to train me properly...
heres the thing...
out of the 15 or so people working their per shift, one, only ONE, has actually explained to me how to do something i needed to do...

i dont like this donna cunt, and im gonna talk to my manager about her tomorrow when i go in, and if things dont change, i really dont know what im gonna do...
the downside to my xanax, which makes me comfortable enough to work in such a cramped, populated area, is that when i get mad, i get MAD, and im worried i will flip out on her ass if she continues talking to me like she has been...

do any of you have any similar situations, and if so, how would you handle it?
ive been out of the work force for awhile, so im not sure what to do...
:?

[YouStayClassy]

I had a scary similar situation: a complete bitch boss that would verbally degrade me over stuff (and these weren't even mistakes, I'd get yelled at for helping a customer instead of selling them something they didn't need).

I'm a very reserved person, even though I have a horribly violent temper I've never ONCE lost it at a job. But one day she was going off on me for not giving a preferred client some free cell phones, and was being a total condescending bitch about it.

I just lost it, and started SCREAMING back at her. This actually got her attention, and she profusely apologized to me. I went home, thought about it, and realized absolutely no job is worth me having to degrade MYSELF to such base behaviour.

I quit the next day.

[Olivier E.]

you never worked with me :lol:

[ClintP]

Same type of thing happened to be while I was consulting for Cingular. I found a new job and walked out on them. Was it the right thing to do? No. Will I be able to put them down for a future reference? No. Did I enjoy regaining my soul back? YES!

Stick it out until you get another job man. This bitch I dealt with berated me every day because I was a contractor. We worked in a "professional" environment and I kept telling my managers. They did nothing, since I didn't want to confront the witch. I just wanted on another team. Finally, I asked one day what I needed to do and she told me I needed a labotamy. I snapped and got a new job and walked out as soon as I got the call saying I could start in a few days. I had a meeting to attend and work to hand over, but damned if I was going to stay another fucking moment and take shit from some nut bag when all I was trying to do was help. F them man!

Just tell your manager and bite your lip. If that doesn't help, look somewhere else. Leave her to her shitty ass job and move on to greener pastures.

[innocentboy]

this donna cunt
:lol:

[Hawkdevil]

basically, if that sort of thing keeps up, I don't see why you should keep the job. You have a job to support your lifestyle, but if the job is just degrading and lowers your quality of life like that, it's just not worth it. It'd be pointless, in my opinion.
To handle the situation, I'd say just keep calm and explain yourself. She'll end up feeling bad and looking like a bitch if you're explaining something to her calmly while she's yelling her ass of at you. ANd then if she doesn't see that she's being a terrible person, you should just be like "okay, you're a useless human being with absolutely no sense of repsect or sympathy. Goodbye." and find a new job.

[Jamie]

tell her to fuck off. you do not need that shit. work to live not live to work. if that does not work invite her around to your place. could be a case of hait the people you love. she wants it

[amy]

tell her to fuck off. you do not need that shit. work to live not live to work. if that does not work invite her around to your place. could be a case of hait the people you love. she wants it



:rofl:

[Jastermereel]

the downside to my xanax, which makes me comfortable enough to work in such a cramped, populated area, is that when i get mad, i get MAD, and im worried i will flip out on her ass if she continues talking to me like she has been...
Just promise us that if/when you finally do the whole you-won't-like-me-when-i'm-angry hulking out thing that you make a thread for it.

[Hawkdevil]

James Michael at work tomorrow, courtesy of the Bendis Board SMILEY Theatre:


Boss: :nodidnt:
James: :hulk:
Boss: :shock: :cry:
James: :wave:

[Thomas Mauer]

Since you've been out of the work force for a long time and this is apparently your first new job, you may want to shut up and take the abuse so you can keep the job. But that's not worth it. If management doesn't do anything about it, confront her and don't be meek. You don't have to put up with shit like that. Life's too short for that.

It sounds like most people at the place keep their mouth shut, so all she knows is that she can get away with the bullying. Stand up to her and she'll most likely stop giving you a hard time. People like that look for easy prey.

And if it keeps up, do look for another job.

[kritty]

in all likelihood, the manager has received complaints about this bitch from both employees and customers. i had this happen to me last summer at the theatre. i only work there once a week for shits and giggles and this bitch was just absolutely rude to everyone, plus she was always bitching about her physical ailments. one day she was a bit too pissy with me, so i simply finished my shift and went tell the manager not to schedule me with her anymore. so the manager was cool and did that for me.

fast forward about a month later - something happened where she covered an extra shift and i was working that same shift. i just ignored her, but the other girl in the box asked her a question and she somehow got it to where she said something to the effect of me not wanting to work with her. i looked at her and in my most professional and sweet voice i told her i did not want to work with her because she treated everyone she was near like shit, she complained about mundane things that no one wanted to hear, and frankly, she was depressing and really difficult to tolerate. i told her that i did not work there or anywhere else to be talked down to or to be treated like shit and instead of me having to constantly hear her bullshit and her curse at the employees and customers, i just decided that i did not need to work with her anymore. since i am not the type of person to be confrontational, i figured the best solution was to just not work with her.

that shut her up real fast and she never bothered me again. plus she was fired not long after for finally getting caught sticking the finger at a customer.

dumb bitch

[james michael]

well, ive only been there three days, and have not had to interact with her much...
i think i may work for retarded monkies in people suits ($600! COME ON! :x)
they havent actually trained me (as in explain how to do what im about to do, then giving me feedback, and correcting me as needed), with the exception with one lady, alicia... she explained shit, was extremely nice, and i did good at what she had me doing...
i have to keep this job for now, maybe im just not used to it, and frankly, im not in a position to bitch about her yet, but if she pushes the right button... :?

[King of Mars]

Give it a little longer. Get a better feel for the situation.