Personal\Serious: Has Anybody Here Ever Gone Through A REALLY Difficult Time?

[WinstonWolf]

I won't go into details unless I absolutely HAVE to, but I'm going through a REALLY bad time in my life. Has anybody here ever felt as if they hit an absolute low point, and or a point where almost everything is looking bleak? If so, how did you handle it? You don't have to state what the problem was if you don't want to, but I would greatly appreciate the help. Thank you.

[james michael]

ive broken

[The Cheap-Arse Film Critic]

The "Anti Emo Brigade" is awaiting orders...

[Taki Soma]

everyone's gone through a very very difficult time, I think.

which means statistically, you'll get through it and you will be stronger/smarter for it.

good luck.

[A.Huerta]

Just compare your situation with kids and families who are poor and struggle with everyday life and just be thankful you're alive. that's what i do.

[WAKKAJAWAKKA]

One Time I Had To Pee So Bad, But Was In A Meeting.

Wayno.

[Brian Defferding]

My girlfriend is going through hell right now (won't go into details); and at times it worries me greatly but she knows it's only temporary and will endure it. I think for her it's just a matter of "keeping her eyes on the prize" and life's giant hurdles will become more like speed bumps.

[deadboy]

Has anyone ever not gone thru this? I don't mean to make light of your situation but I've been thru things like that several times. When my father died, when my grandmother died, stupid mistakes I've made in my life that have seriously fucked shit up. Life goes on and if you don't let it destroy you then you will go on too. Live and learn. And find a good lawyer. :)

[WinstonWolf]

Well, it's nothing in any way illegal, or really morally questionable. It's just a personal problem\situation.

[SteveZegers]

Things that I thought were "end of the world" bad, but looking back really weren't. Hopefully you'll be able to look back in a few years and wonder what you were so worried about.

[A.Huerta]

As long as you didnt kill anyone, you'll live.

[Taki Soma]

As long as you didnt kill anyone, you'll live.
why? does murder kill you? :scared:

[TRILL, THE CARBON BASED LIFEFORM]

It helps to keep yourself distracted. Don't dwell on it.

[ThisSpaceForRent]

why? does murder kill you? :scared:

Not if you do it right. Some people put the required amount of effort into ANYTHING though...

[joeyart]

Just try to keep doing things that make you happy...and don't be afraid to got to therapy or ask for help...
good luck...

[james michael]

As long as you didnt kill anyone, you'll live.
but if you dont, you could die... :?

[Brian Defferding]

but if you dont, you could die... :?

How about incapacitation, then?

[james michael]

How about incapacitation, then?
they can become capacitated and stronger than ever...

[PhilipClark]

Do you have all your limbs? If yes, then perhaps your life isn't so bad.

Maybe you should go log in some time at your local soup kitchen or homeless shelter to get some perspective.

Sometimes putting your energies into helping people less fortunate than you can help take your mind off your own problems.

[TRILL, THE CARBON BASED LIFEFORM]

It's cool to give perspective to someone who's having a rough time, but their suffering isn't negated because they're not losing limbs or living in a cardboard shack with dirt floors. That's especially true if they're suffering from genuine clinical depression. It's like telling a cancer victim to snap out of it.

[TIP]

Did someone say soup?

T
(hungry and spoonless)

[Adam Beranek]

Eat right, get 8 hours sleep, and talk to a doctor/therapist. You will get through it. It happens to the best of us.

[A.Huerta]

Serenity now. Insanity later.

[Meteornotes]

Yep, been there. The only thing that really helped was cutting myself off from every negative person in my life, removing myself from a life-threatening situation and moving to a strange city where I knew no one, and basically starting my life over. It was not easy, and I spent a lot of time in my crappy apartment by myself, but my life is a lot better now than it was back then. Good luck.

dt

[PhilipClark]

It's cool to give perspective to someone who's having a rough time, but their suffering isn't negated because they're not losing limbs or living in a cardboard shack with dirt floors. That's especially true if they're suffering from genuine clinical depression. It's like telling a cancer victim to snap out of it.
I understand that. I've been clinically depressed. I've also been though a lot of rough shit. That said, dwelling on how bad you feel is also characterized as self-pity. I was simply trying to suggest a distraction from that negative, self indulgent behavior that might also serve someone possibly less fortunate.

But the next time any one asks for advice, I'll just keep my trap shut. Forget what I said. It truly is as bad and bleak as you think it is.

[Tyeron]

man... i was in DEEP depression for like a year and a half.. keeping friends around and staying busy was the best thing for me
working out really kept my mind off of it.. cause nothing keeps you focused on something else, like trying to keep a weight from crushing you.

just stay busy man.. and try to exhaust yourself cause i know its worst in the morning just when you wake up or when you go to sleep.. just try to work past that and stay busy.. you'll get alot done.. and it does wonders for getting ya through it...

then.. after a while.. its over man.. and yer all good

[LowKey]

It's cool to give perspective to someone who's having a rough time, but their suffering isn't negated because they're not losing limbs or living in a cardboard shack with dirt floors. That's especially true if they're suffering from genuine clinical depression. It's like telling a cancer victim to snap out of it.

Bravo, Trillian.

Anyway...I would say the first thing to do would be to take advantage of whatever resources happen to be available to you. If you have any kind of health insurance, there's a good change your EAP will grant you almost immediate access to a local counselor (usually the first 6 visits are free). If you're still in school, don't hesitate to turn to a guidance counselor or clinic. That's what they get paid to do.

And for god's sake, don't turn to the Bendis board for consolation. There's too many wiseasses here that'll just crack cheap jokes at your expense. I'm SURE you don't want that.

[AAlgar]

Never. My life has been perfect 100% of the time. Clearly you're doing it wrong.

[TRILL, THE CARBON BASED LIFEFORM]

I understand that. I've been clinically depressed. I've also been though a lot of rough shit. That said, dwelling on how bad you feel is also characterized as self-pity. I was simply trying to suggest a distraction from that negative, self indulgent behavior that might also serve someone possibly less fortunate.

But the next time any one asks for advice, I'll just keep my trap shut. Forget what I said. It truly is as bad and bleak as you think it is.

I wasn't suggesting you shut up. I was giving perspective too, cause we don't really know what his troubles are. That's all.

[TIP]

Never. My life has been perfect 100% of the time. Clearly you're doing it wrong.

Could you recommend a good bowl of soup?

And, p'raps, a spoon vendor?

T

[LowKey]

During MY 'difficult' time, I had no idea what was really out there. If you feel like you're going to do something 'rash', there are Crisis hotlines available 24/7. There are many options, and they're not too difficult to find.

[PhilipClark]

Could you recommend a good bowl of soup?

And, p'raps, a spoon vendor?

T
Chunky's got this Chicken Tortilla stuff that is SOOOO good.

http://images.amazon.com/images/P/B000AQFFNQ.01-A3CDPEGSIQM61V._SCMZZZZZZZ_.jpg

I'm with Tip. Get some soup.

[TIP]

Chunky's got this Chicken Tortilla stuff that is SOOOO good.

http://images.amazon.com/images/P/B000AQFFNQ.01-A3CDPEGSIQM61V._SCMZZZZZZZ_.jpg

I'm with Tip. Get some soup.

:drool:

Anything in the Booya family?

T

[Bill?]

Personal\Serious: Has Anybody Here Ever Gone Through A REALLY Difficult Time?

yeah. i call it life. :wink:

[AAlgar]

Bravo, Trillian.

Anyway...I would say the first thing to do would be to take advantage of whatever resources happen to be available to you. If you have any kind of health insurance, there's a good change your EAP will grant you almost immediate access to a local counselor (usually the first 6 visits are free). If you're still in school, don't hesitate to turn to a guidance counselor or clinic. That's what they get paid to do.

And for god's sake, don't turn to the Bendis board for consolation. There's too many wiseasses here that'll just crack cheap jokes at your expense. I'm SURE you don't want that.

On the serious TIP for a moment... the Bendis board actually helped me get through a pretty rough patch. Friends are always helpful, no matter where they come from.

[TIP]

On the serious TIP for a moment... the Bendis board actually helped me get through a pretty rough patch. Friends are always helpful, no matter where they come from.

:shock:

T

[justjeffery]

Man, I've got 2 kids with autism... so yeah, you could say we've had some rough times...

[LowKey]

I can't comprehend why someone would come into a thread like this just to be a dick or crack jokes when someone is clearly having a hard time. However, it's good to see there are some cool people here.

Anyway.

Winstonwolf,

The fact that you are willing to reach out (in at least THIS way) is a very courageous thing...and IMO indicates that you are at least open to the possiblility of talking things out and getting through this. Be strong, know that you're better than this, and get the help you deserve.

[A.Huerta]

Humor and jackasses are known to be the best remedies. When you get to the point where you take everything seriously, including threads on forums, that's when you need to lighten up. We all have been through shit, and in the end we come out stronger. So for now we all have to deal with the cards we are dealt with.

[LowKey]

Humor and jackasses are known to be the best remedies. When you get to the point where you take everything seriously, including threads on forums, that's when you need to lighten up. We all have been through shit, and in the end we come out stronger. So for now we all have to deal with the cards we are dealt with.

Sorry, but I don't buy into that. There's dozens of other threads for cracking jokes or 'tough love', and to invalidate somebody's feelings with the "we've ALL been through shit" perspective is something that I choose to disagree with. One of the few things in life thing I DO take seriously is when someone asks for help. Otherwise, I'd be down in the trenches as well.

[AAlgar]

Sorry, but I don't buy into that. There's dozens of other threads for cracking jokes or 'tough love', and to invalidate somebody's feelings with the "we've ALL been through shit" perspective is something that I choose to disagree with. One of the few things in life thing I DO take seriously is when someone asks for help. Otherwise, I'd be down in the trenches as well.

See, I think it depends on the person.

Last thing I want when I'm down is an excuse to keep moping. I need some perspective, and I need someone to snap me the hell out of it.

[Bill?]

See, I think it depends on the person.

Last thing I want when I'm down is an excuse to keep moping. I need some perspective, and I need someone to snap me the hell out of it.

clearly all you need is for a guy to shoot fucking laser beams into your eyes.

[LowKey]

See, I think it depends on the person.

Last thing I want when I'm down is an excuse to keep moping. I need some perspective, and I need someone to snap me the hell out of it.

I wholeheartedly agree with you. I'm just going off of the information on the original post. In my OPINION, this doesn't sound like an individual looking for a kick in the pants or soup jokes...but a little commiseration.


I won't go into details unless I absolutely HAVE to, but I'm going through a REALLY bad time in my life. Has anybody here ever felt as if they hit an absolute low point, and or a point where almost everything is looking bleak?

[TIP]

clearly all you need is for a guy to shoot fucking laser beams into your eyes.

:lol:

T

[AAlgar]

clearly all you need is for a guy to shoot fucking laser beams into your eyes.

You get one point for continuity.

And minus twenty for your INSOLENCE. :x

[twigglet]

Whenever I feel bad, I honestly have some food (I heard one time that eating food can trigger hormones being released to make you feel better) head to sleep, or just read a book and chill out.

I've never been feeling really bad though, hope you get out of it soon man :(

[AAlgar]

I wholeheartedly agree with you. I'm just going off of the information on the original post. In my OPINION, this doesn't sound like an individual looking for a kick in the pants or soup jokes...but a little commiseration.

True.

And honestly, if that particular poster hadn't built a reputation as someone who seems to enjoy posting provocative threads that rile people up (see: "Modern comics are style over substance," "comics were better in the 80s," etc.), I suspect there might be a more sincere attempt toward commiseration.

I'm not belittling the guy or attacking him. But my take on what I've seen of him is that he enjoys a good argument. I'd almost go so far as to call him adversarial, though not in a trollish way.

So yeah, maybe because of that the natural tendency is to toss some crap back in that direction.

Or maybe we're just all assholes. It's certainly possible. I know I am.

[A.Huerta]

See, I think it depends on the person.

Last thing I want when I'm down is an excuse to keep moping. I need some perspective, and I need someone to snap me the hell out of it.


Exactly. And I'm speaking from experiance, laughter and being a jackass def. helps those who NEED to laugh and smile.

[LowKey]

True.

And honestly, if that particular poster hadn't built a reputation as someone who seems to enjoy posting provocative threads that rile people up (see: "Modern comics are style over substance," "comics were better in the 80s," etc.), I suspect there might be a more sincere attempt toward commiseration.

I'm not belittling the guy or attacking him. But my take on what I've seen of him is that he enjoys a good argument. I'd almost go so far as to call him adversarial, though not in a trollish way.

So yeah, maybe because of that the natural tendency is to toss some crap back in that direction.

Or maybe we're just all assholes. It's certainly possible. I know I am.


Exactly. And I'm speaking from experiance, laughter and being a jackass def. helps those who NEED to laugh and smile.



Hrrmm...

Some good points there.

Ok, I rescind. Aalgar, Huerta...godspeed. I am humbled by your collective wisdom.

[innocentboy]

I won't go into details unless I absolutely HAVE to, but I'm going through a REALLY bad time in my life. Has anybody here ever felt as if they hit an absolute low point, and or a point where almost everything is looking bleak? If so, how did you handle it? You don't have to state what the problem was if you don't want to, but I would greatly appreciate the help. Thank you.
"if you have nothing to live for,
you better find something to die for." - Afeni Shakur

[LowKey]

Winston:

Irregardless of whichever approach works best for you, just continue to reach out and fight with all you've got. There is no other option.

[A.Huerta]

It's all good Lowkey.:)

[LowKey]

It's all good Lowkey.:)


:mrgreen:

[WinstonWolf]

True.

And honestly, if that particular poster hadn't built a reputation as someone who seems to enjoy posting provocative threads that rile people up (see: "Modern comics are style over substance," "comics were better in the 80s," etc.),

I do? Saying that comics today are quick reads and lack substance (I'm certainly not the first one to say this, by the way.), and that the 80s was considered the best decade for comics (which I believe MOST comic historians even agree on.) makes me want to rile people up? Dam.

I suspect there might be a more sincere attempt toward commiseration.

I'm not belittling the guy or attacking him. But my take on what I've seen of him is that he enjoys a good argument.

I do? Aside from it being about politics, that's news to me.

I'd almost go so far as to call him adversarial, though not in a trollish way.

Thanks?

So yeah, maybe because of that the natural tendency is to toss some crap back in that direction.

Or maybe we're just all assholes. It's certainly possible. I know I am.
Nah. Assholes don't ever SAY that there assholes.