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Shepherd
04-03-2005, 04:41 AM
So I met this INCREDIBLE girl the other day. She's Korean but absolutely fluent in English (first Korean I've met here without an accent). She's vegetarian (we met in this vegetarian place near my house). We have the same taste in music. She's honest and forward (something Korean women rarely are). And she's obviously into me.

We had this GREAT conversation the first time I met her. And I have to admit that I was totally into her--until she told me how old she was. She's 17. I'm 25. Creepy as all get out.

Normally, I date older women. I like women who are strong and know who they are. But damn, I can't get this girl out of my head.

What do you all think?

R

AAlgar
04-03-2005, 04:42 AM
There's 12 years between my parents and they've been happily married for over 20 years now.

It can happen.

Shepherd
04-03-2005, 04:45 AM
There's 12 years between my parents and they've been happily married for over 20 years now.

It can happen.

May I ask how old they were when they met? This just feels so creepy to me.

R

JABSEN
04-03-2005, 04:45 AM
I'm 25 and I would.But No you shouldn't.

AAlgar
04-03-2005, 04:47 AM
May I ask how old they were when they met? This just feels so creepy to me.

R

Mom was 22, dad was 34.

pornbot2.5
04-03-2005, 04:52 AM
Will it land you a few years in the pokey? :D

Nick_Borelli
04-03-2005, 04:53 AM
I'm 25 and I would.But No you shouldn't.

I'm 24 and I would too.

But I think you shouldn't as well.

JABSEN
04-03-2005, 04:54 AM
I'm 24 and I would too.

But I think you shouldn't as well.Cause it's creepy?

That's why I wouldn't


But I would..


Huh?

Mr. E!
04-03-2005, 04:54 AM
At your ages, there is a huge difference in experience between 25 and 17. Look at all the things you've been through in the last 7 years (college? career? I'm not really sure because I don't know you personaly), while she is still in high school. Think about what you were like during your senior year of high school: would you be ready for a relationship with a 25 year old? She may seem, and in fact be, very mature. But it is the difference in experience that give me pause here. Be very, VERY careful.

james michael
04-03-2005, 04:59 AM
i could always go older, but i couldnt go 8 years younger, not until im 38...

and especially not now.. the maturity gap is just too big...

JABSEN
04-03-2005, 05:01 AM
i could always go older, but i couldnt go 8 years younger, not until im 38...

and especially not now.. the maturity gap is just too big...*bites tongue*




;)

Schroedingers Cat
04-03-2005, 05:02 AM
My Mom & Stepdad were 9 years apart but were very happy.

They got together when my Mom was 31 or 32, I think, so Dad would have been 40 or 41.

Jim

james michael
04-03-2005, 05:03 AM
*bites tongue*




;)

YOUR
MOM!!!
:x

Olivier E.
04-03-2005, 05:08 AM
Try it, you've nothing to lose and usually age differences aren't an imporant thing, only ifshewould have been 14 or 15

JABSEN
04-03-2005, 05:09 AM
YOUR
MOM!!!
:xShut up.

You :spidey: me

Mr. E!
04-03-2005, 05:12 AM
So I met this INCREDIBLE girl the other day. She's Korean but absolutely fluent in English (first Korean I've met here without an accent). She's vegetarian (we met in this vegetarian place near my house). We have the same taste in music. She's honest and forward (something Korean women rarely are). And she's obviously into me.
R

Look at your wording: I met this incredible girl. Girl. Not woman. Ewwww. Leave Lolita alone man. :no:

james michael
04-03-2005, 05:17 AM
Shut up.

You :spidey: me

sorry about the webbing :Oops:

TRILL, THE CARBON BASED LIFEFORM
04-03-2005, 05:39 AM
I probably wouldn't date someone 8 years younger than me. I like guys my age or older. I don't think you should automatically rule out a relationship with the girl, though. Maybe you should be friends for a while, get to know her better. It just seems like rushing into something sexual might be a mistake right now. That's my opinion.

Jono
04-03-2005, 05:40 AM
you can't, she below your minimum age according to The Gentlemans Code. Rule 11, subsection b, reads; "A gentleman shall not have romantic encounters with a lady unless she is a at least x years old, where x = 1/2 your age, plus 7."

Sorry man, the code doesn't lie...

JABSEN
04-03-2005, 05:41 AM
you can't, she below your minimum age according to The Gentlemans Code. Rule 11, subsection b, reads; "A gentleman shall not have romantic encounters with a lady unless she is a at least x years old, where x = 1/2 your age, plus 7."

Sorry man, the code doesn't lie...:confused:

I suck at math

Donal DeLay
04-03-2005, 05:43 AM
That's something you'll have to decide for yourself. You really can't go on the opinions of anyone here, because probably 95% of the people here don't see/interact with you on a daily bases.

Obviously the age gap makes you feel uncomfortable enough to wonder if you should ask her out. Talk to HER, and see how she feels abut the age difference and your feelings towards dating her. Let her opinion make up your mind, not ours.

Also, do you think it'd make your friends uncomfortable to know the age gap? What about your family?

My wife and I have a 5 1/2 year gap between us, and both of our familes couldn't have cared less. Infact, my family likes her more than me. Go figure.

Jono
04-03-2005, 05:45 AM
:confused:

I suck at math

He's 25, which means his minimum age for girls is 19 (and a half, but the half is usually ignored)

Thudpucker
04-03-2005, 05:49 AM
No. Personnally, I would not.

That is almost a full generation, and at 17 she is still a child, at least to me. But to each their own. Girls love to date older men, and guys love to date young girls so you would certianly not be alone.

Jono
04-03-2005, 05:51 AM
No. Personnally, I would not.

That is almost a full generation, and at 17 she is still a child, at least to me. But to each their own. Girls love to date older men, and guys love to date young girls so you would certianly not be alone.

I'm pretty sure that a generation in techically 25 years, but I get your point...

Thudpucker
04-03-2005, 05:52 AM
I'm pretty sure that a generation in techically 25 years, but I get your point...

I thought it went by decades (10 years)

Jono
04-03-2005, 05:55 AM
I thought it went by decades (10 years)

Basically, it take 25 years for a kid to grow up and then have his own kids. Thats the thought behind it, anyway.

Len Ford
04-03-2005, 06:39 AM
I'm as old as you are and I definitely wouldn't go for it if I were you. Whoever said that you two are in two different stages in your lives is absolutely right.

-Len

Andrew j
04-03-2005, 06:44 AM
I'm like my dad in the sense that I dig older women. My mom is 5 years older than my dad I think.

I can't stand chicks who are dumber than me (which is an achievement all in itself because a fucking post is smarter than me)

NickT
04-03-2005, 06:49 AM
At your ages, there is a huge difference in experience between 25 and 17.
I disagree. Age isn't a factor, the people involved are.




I'd say no, because you're so unsure on it.

Taki Soma
04-03-2005, 07:04 AM
My cousin dated a 17 year-old and at the time, he was 29. They were together and happy for 4 years. And even her parents loved him (who wouldn't? he's a great person)

I dated a guy 6 years younger, almost 7 once. There wasn't anything weird IMO and I'm a girl!

Ray G.
04-03-2005, 07:25 AM
It can work. I'm 21, and the girl I've been dating casually for a few weeks now is 16. I know my boundaries, and I'm keeping my hands where they should be. But she's one of the smartest, most entertaining girls I've ever met, and I'm not going to let a number keep us apart. My advice: Keep it sort of casual until she turns 18, and then go hot and heavy on her birthday. But don't disregard a girl you really like just because of a number.

J.D. Lombardi
04-03-2005, 07:26 AM
17 is a little young and here in the States, that just isn't a legal relation...so I'd not recommend it unless you won't be carted off to jail where you live.

I happen to be about 7 years older than Mary.

You Killed Hawkeye
04-03-2005, 07:28 AM
But don't disregard a girl you really like just because of a number.

Unless she's, like, 9.

Ray G.
04-03-2005, 07:29 AM
Unless she's, like, 9.

Well, yeah, but if you find yourself attracted to a 9 year-old, then you have much bigger problems. Unless, of course, you're 11.

copypastepuke
04-03-2005, 07:35 AM
go for it.

gaspar
04-03-2005, 07:42 AM
I was 24 dating a 17 year old a few years back. Didn't go any further than a few dinner/movie type dates, but yes, I considered it. There was just too much of a generational gap at that point, but it was fun :)

Brandon

james michael
04-03-2005, 07:49 AM
my step brother dated a 17 year old when he was 24 in the marines... they were together for a year, even when he was gone for months at a time... they got married when she was 19, and by the time he was 27 he was divorced...
oh, and she was a bitch, too...

Angel of Distraction
04-03-2005, 07:49 AM
Sounds good to me. You've just been conditioned to think that way. There's nothing biologically or morally wrong with it.

wh park
04-03-2005, 07:56 AM
What Rellis said is so true.

If the 8 year gap was more like you were 32 and she was 24 then maybe it would be ok but with a teenager.... that's not a good idea, no matter how much you have in common and get along.

Besides your own hesitancy and feelings of "creepiness" should tell you all you need to know.

Be friends and if it's meant to happen as you guys get older then go for it.

Besides you're still young too so don't worry about not finding someone.

Angel of Distraction
04-03-2005, 07:58 AM
What Rellis said is so true.

If the 8 year gap was more like you were 32 and she was 24 then maybe it would be ok but with a teenager.... that's not a good idea, no matter how much you have in common and get along.

Besides your own hesitancy and feelings of "creepiness" should tell you all you need to know.

Be friends and if it's meant to happen as you guys get older then go for it.

Besides you're still young too so don't worry about not finding someone.

Can I ask why? It's only a fairly modern law that prevents this. If she were fourteen there might be questions. But by the time you are seventeen you are capable of making your own decisions. Keep in mind a typical 17-year-old girl in most other countries is only 20 times more mature than one here.

NickT
04-03-2005, 07:59 AM
I don't know if anyone noticed, but the thread starter isn't in the US.

Angel of Distraction
04-03-2005, 08:00 AM
I don't know if anyone noticed, but the thread starter isn't in the US.

Yeah, I noticed, which is why I say no problem.

Mylazycat
04-03-2005, 08:05 AM
To each there own. I'm currently crushing on a younger co-worker myself and there is a bit of an age difference, although she is an adult and not a teenager. You have doubts, so that is a sign. However, do you feel creepy of your own thoughts or creepy because society says you should feel creepy? That is the question you must answer.

Still, in any case, it is best to be friends first. I am definately taking my situation slow and getting to know her and see where her head is fully at. She may be witty, energetic, sweet and fun at work but where is her overal self at? I want to find out and you should, too.

wh park
04-03-2005, 08:06 AM
Can I ask why? It's only a fairly modern law that prevents this. If she were fourteen there might be questions. But by the time you are seventeen you are capable of making your own decisions. Keep in mind a typical 17-year-old girl in most other countries is only 20 times more mature than one here.

I'm talking necessarily about legalities, it's more the issue of maturity and experience level as Rellis mentioned.

I mean between the two of them there is a quite a bit of a gap in terms of what they've gone through in life (unless she's travelled to another country to work as well and gone thru college/university). There is no way you could compare the experiences of a 17 yo to a 25 yo if both have had typical experiences for people their age. And yes I'm considering that she's Korean and he's American (or from some Western country) (but hey I'm Korean-Canadian and have loads of female cousins back in the homeland so I have a fairly decent idea about what I'm talking about).

Course the legalities are a factor as well.

neophyte
04-03-2005, 08:25 AM
My bf is 6 years younger than me (7 years, for 2 weeks )

We didn't meet until he was 19, so legalities weren't an issue...

Mr. E!
04-03-2005, 08:33 AM
I tend to look at this from my perspective as a teacher. I started teaching at 22. I couldn't, or wouldn't for that matter, date a 14 year old (8 year difference, right?). I'd go to jail. I could bump it up to 25, and make the girl 17, and a senior. But still, I'd lose my job. Besides that, being around 17 year olds all day, I have met very few who are truly as mature as they portray themselves to be. This might be a special case, that 1 in a 1,000,000 girl. But I doubt it.

lyra
04-03-2005, 08:37 AM
I probably wouldn't date someone 8 years younger than me. I like guys my age or older. I don't think you should automatically rule out a relationship with the girl, though. Maybe you should be friends for a while, get to know her better. It just seems like rushing into something sexual might be a mistake right now. That's my opinion.

Listen to her. She's very wise.

nihilance
04-03-2005, 08:38 AM
I'm 32 and my girlfriend of 3 years is 22.

Christian Beranek
04-03-2005, 08:44 AM
My girlfriend is 10 years younger than me. Already a done deal.

~Hernandez~
04-03-2005, 08:45 AM
My last girlfriend was 9 years younger than me. I think I would date 18-45 year range, I'm 31.

BudBaxter11
04-03-2005, 08:45 AM
it didn't work out too well for Scott Pilgrim is all I am saying

Persevering Guy
04-03-2005, 09:38 AM
aniyo. don't get deported.

V-Man
04-03-2005, 09:40 AM
I'm Fifteen so i dont really see myself with a seven year old.


Keep on Truckin,

V-Man

Angel of Distraction
04-03-2005, 09:47 AM
Listen to her. She's very wise.

But there's a difference between men and women here. Guys are much less discriminating based on age.

james michael
04-03-2005, 09:57 AM
I'm Fifteen so i dont really see myself with a seven year old.


Keep on Truckin,

V-Man
thats probably the best advice so far...

Boris the Blade
04-03-2005, 09:57 AM
I have to wait a year for it to be legal for me here in Canada, but sure, why not? I thought that was the norm. High school girls date college guys, college girls date professors, and then grads date high school guys.

RegularJoe
04-03-2005, 09:59 AM
i'm in that age spread right now. i'm not dating someone that young and i wouldn't. partly 'cause i'm pretty sure it's illegal in illinois but, notwithstanding that, i know a fair amount of girls that age and there is a marked maturity gap despite many shared interests. and the maturity difference would get old real quick.

DanLTaylor
04-03-2005, 10:12 AM
I'm dating somebody 17 years yonger than me.

Boris the Blade
04-03-2005, 10:14 AM
I'm dating somebody 17 years yonger than me.

HOT STUFF COMING THROUGH!

http://www.pbs.org/wgbh/nova/genome/images/manipulate_fetus_l.jpg

lyra
04-03-2005, 10:29 AM
But there's a difference between men and women here. Guys are much less discriminating based on age.

That's because you all think with the wrong body parts. Another good reason he should listen to Trillian.

My mom's 2nd husband was 10 years younger than her...it was fine and dandy until the whole family gig got old. Now he's with someone my age(30 years younger than him) and I'm surprised it's lasted 11 years. Massive amounts of beer makes anything possible.

~Hernandez~
04-03-2005, 10:37 AM
I'm Fifteen so i dont really see myself with a seven year old.


Keep on Truckin,

V-Man

"V-Boy"?

Andrew j
04-03-2005, 10:40 AM
That's because you all think with the wrong body parts. Another good reason he should listen to Trillian.

My mom's 2nd husband was 10 years younger than her...it was fine and dandy until the whole family gig got old. Now he's with someone my age(30 years younger than him) and I'm surprised it's lasted 11 years. Massive amounts of beer makes anything possible.

See I disagree for the exact same reason you have, a personal experience. My dad is 6 years younger than my mom and even though I joke about how miserable they are I think they are incredibly happy with each other.

All depends on the person.

lyra
04-03-2005, 10:57 AM
See I disagree for the exact same reason you have, a personal experience. My dad is 6 years younger than my mom and even though I joke about how miserable they are I think they are incredibly happy with each other.

All depends on the person.

You are correct. It depends on the situation. If Sir Jimbo was divorced with 5 kids, it would be a lot different than his current situation. Basically, I just wanted him to think REALLY hard, but I would expect him to do that even if she was his age. Hearts are fragile things.

Also I never follow my own advice.
In the months to come, you'll see me fuck up REALLY bad.
It'll be too much fun.

Mister Mets
04-03-2005, 11:07 AM
Given that I'm currently nineteen......no.

In eight or so years....sure.

james michael
04-03-2005, 11:11 AM
You are correct. It depends on the situation. If Sir Jimbo was divorced with 5 kids, it would be a lot different than his current situation. Basically, I just wanted him to think REALLY hard, but I would expect him to do that even if she was his age. Hearts are fagile things.

Also I never follow my own advice.
In the months to come, you'll see me fuck up REALLY bad.
It'll be too much fun.

spiral downward
claw way back up
repeat til dead...

the power of positive thinking i tells ya! ;)

Andrew j
04-03-2005, 11:38 AM
You are correct. It depends on the situation. If Sir Jimbo was divorced with 5 kids, it would be a lot different than his current situation. Basically, I just wanted him to think REALLY hard, but I would expect him to do that even if she was his age. Hearts are fagile things.

Also I never follow my own advice.
In the months to come, you'll see me fuck up REALLY bad.
It'll be too much fun.

That's my girl.

And try to fuck up with a decent guy who knows what he's doing.

Detective
04-03-2005, 12:00 PM
Picking up high school chicks when you're 25 seems a little shady. Then again she'll be out of high school and 18 in a year right? I say size up her dad and then make a decision ;)

james michael
04-03-2005, 12:02 PM
Picking up high school chicks when you're 25 seems a little shady. Then again she'll be out of high school and 18 in a year right? I say size up her dad and then make a decision ;)
youre not a real detective...

Ashton
04-03-2005, 12:10 PM
I personally wouldn't- not that the 8 years in age difference is a big deal, but that she's in her teens like that is. If she was in her 20's it'd be a different story for me then. She's just a young girl still.

DeaconKole
04-03-2005, 12:23 PM
Eh, don't listen to them. I'm 26 with an 18 year old girlfriend, and we're having a great time. Sure, there are times when you wonder about the differences. For instance, last night I watched the Nickelodeon Kid's Choice Awards for the first time ever. But this girl is every bit as mature as I am (I mean come on, my professional life involves grading comic books), and we're very in tune. You'll know if it's right.

Detective
04-03-2005, 12:26 PM
youre not a real detective...

You're pretty quick. Maybe you can be my deputy.

robbdaman
04-03-2005, 12:26 PM
I'm 34 so 8 years younger wouldn't be that big of a deal to me. In fact I've dated girls 13 years younger than me.

R~

Natty P, Scientific Adventurer
04-03-2005, 12:37 PM
Go for it.

Anad
04-03-2005, 12:38 PM
My wife's parents were 30 years apart.

She was 20 and he was 50 when they met. Married for 35 years before he passed away and then she died 2 years later.

They loved each other until the end and were very good parents to my wife and her sister.

Los
04-03-2005, 12:42 PM
I always had a 4 years up and 4 years down kinda rule...but if she's hot...Go for it!

The Roman Candle
04-03-2005, 12:45 PM
8 years younger than me = 12. So no.

TIP
04-03-2005, 01:00 PM
Wouldn't hurt to go on a few dates...what the hell.

T

Alex<sadly>Maleev
04-03-2005, 01:09 PM
ask Jesus first. I say go for it, but I don't have his credentials.

The Roman Candle
04-03-2005, 01:12 PM
My philosophy:

If it's legal, HIT IT!

Jonny Z
04-03-2005, 01:14 PM
i've always wanted to date a girl with braces...

Shwicaz
04-03-2005, 01:15 PM
Go with how you feel. My boyfriend and I have 15 years between us (he is 48, I am 33), and it has worked for 11 years.

J. R. Scherer
04-03-2005, 01:15 PM
you can't, she below your minimum age according to The Gentlemans Code. Rule 11, subsection b, reads; "A gentleman shall not have romantic encounters with a lady unless she is a at least x years old, where x = 1/2 your age, plus 7."

Sorry man, the code doesn't lie...

Do I round up or down?

(PLEASE SAY DOWN)

Shepherd
04-03-2005, 01:15 PM
Mom was 22, dad was 34.

It seems less odd then. I mean, she's only 17. I did A LOT of growing up between 17 and 22.

R

Shepherd
04-03-2005, 01:15 PM
Will it land you a few years in the pokey? :D

No, in Korea she's above the age of consent, so there are no legal issues.

R

The Roman Candle
04-03-2005, 01:16 PM
It seems less odd then. I mean, she's only 17. I did A LOT of growing up between 17 and 22.

R


HIT IT! :mad: :mad: :mad: :mad: :mad: :mad: :mad:

Shepherd
04-03-2005, 01:17 PM
At your ages, there is a huge difference in experience between 25 and 17. Look at all the things you've been through in the last 7 years (college? career? I'm not really sure because I don't know you personaly), while she is still in high school. Think about what you were like during your senior year of high school: would you be ready for a relationship with a 25 year old? She may seem, and in fact be, very mature. But it is the difference in experience that give me pause here. Be very, VERY careful.

She graduated high school, actually. And she's been all over the world, so there's experience there. But I'm right there with you, there's a huge gap in experience.

R

V-Man
04-03-2005, 01:19 PM
Honestly get to know her for a while. Once shes 18 and a bit, then ask her out. That way shes an adult. knida.

Shepherd
04-03-2005, 01:19 PM
Look at your wording: I met this incredible girl. Girl. Not woman. Ewwww. Leave Lolita alone man. :no:

Yeah, I know. Still, I might be saying that ONLY because of her age and not her maturity.

R

Jonny Z
04-03-2005, 01:20 PM
It seems less odd then. I mean, she's only 17. I did A LOT of growing up between 17 and 22.

R

i see no reason not to go for it- whats the worst that can happen? you dont get along? it doesnt work out? if youre already connecting on some level, that means theres something there, regardless of age

Yano
04-03-2005, 03:03 PM
My gut says no.

I don't know how it is in Korea, but I was just getting done with highschool at 17, and even though I was an outgoing, smart, level headed girl, I look back and realize that I knew nothing of life and nothing of who the person I was or wanted to be. There's a lot of growing up I did between 17 and 22, being in relationships, being on my own, living life and discovring things about myself that I never knew.

As for dating someone 9 years younger than me, I wouldn't have a problem with it if I was 35, but it all depends on the age of the other person, whether I feel that they're at an age where they're more confident with who they are.

Yano
04-03-2005, 03:05 PM
It seems less odd then. I mean, she's only 17. I did A LOT of growing up between 17 and 22.

R

Wow, didn't see this 'til after I posted. Guess we did our growing up time at the same ages.

Really, if she's mature enough, give it a try, but realize that she may not know herself yet. Sure, she may have been all over the world and had a lot of experiences, but is that a measure of maturity? It could be. It's your call.

I AM GROOT!
04-03-2005, 03:08 PM
Based on those ages, I would say no. What I wanted when I was seventeen is far different than what I want now at twenty-five. There are so many life experiences that happen in those years, and, if you're looking for anything significant to come out of this, I would let things go. If you're just looking for something fun with no long-term commitments, then I say go for it.

I also want to add that eight years different is not a big deal at all once both parties are older. I know plenty of people who are married with quite a few years in between them, but if one or the other person is still at the "school age," then there is still some maturing needed.

Criden
04-03-2005, 03:44 PM
I'd wait until she's 19. Anything under 19 dating anything over 21 or 22 sounds very creepy.

The Roman Candle
04-03-2005, 03:50 PM
What part of "HIT IT" do you not understand?!

Diana
04-03-2005, 04:14 PM
I tend to only look at guys who are 5 to 10 years older than me. I need that level of maturity and life experience. I doubt I could fall in love with a 17-year-old guy (I am also 25) but if it happened and it felt right I'd probably let it happen.

If it feels right then it probably is. And if it doesn't work out it probably was worth the try anyway.

Oh, and I probably wouldn't have hope that it is the life long lasting thing, but still. Worth a shot. As long as you have an open talk to her first. Say that people change, especially at her age, but if she's willing to take that risk then... etc.

NickBurgess
04-03-2005, 04:49 PM
It seems most people here base this on how they see their 17-year-old selves. I say just do what you feel.

mario94606
04-03-2005, 04:56 PM
There's 12 years between my parents and they've been happily married for over 20 years now.

It can happen.there's 16 years between my parentsand they only lasted 3 kids and till I was 7 years old.

Shepherd
04-03-2005, 08:26 PM
No. Personnally, I would not.

That is almost a full generation, and at 17 she is still a child, at least to me. But to each their own. Girls love to date older men, and guys love to date young girls so you would certianly not be alone.

Actually, I generally DON'T like to date younger women. I almost always go for older. It's very strange that I'd be attracted to someone younger than me.

R

Shepherd
04-03-2005, 08:27 PM
I'm as old as you are and I definitely wouldn't go for it if I were you. Whoever said that you two are in two different stages in your lives is absolutely right.

-Len

Actually, I totally agree. That's why I'm so hesitant. I probably won't go for it, but I must say that I'm disappointed.

R

Shepherd
04-03-2005, 08:31 PM
I'm talking necessarily about legalities, it's more the issue of maturity and experience level as Rellis mentioned.

I mean between the two of them there is a quite a bit of a gap in terms of what they've gone through in life (unless she's travelled to another country to work as well and gone thru college/university). There is no way you could compare the experiences of a 17 yo to a 25 yo if both have had typical experiences for people their age. And yes I'm considering that she's Korean and he's American (or from some Western country) (but hey I'm Korean-Canadian and have loads of female cousins back in the homeland so I have a fairly decent idea about what I'm talking about).

Course the legalities are a factor as well.

I agree with you, and htat's the major problem. Legality isn't an issue. She's 19 Korean age (but 17 American), and that's legal here.

R

Shepherd
04-03-2005, 08:32 PM
aniyo. don't get deported.

I won't (not for this anyway). She's legal by Korean standards.

R

Shepherd
04-03-2005, 08:34 PM
You are correct. It depends on the situation. If Sir Jimbo was divorced with 5 kids, it would be a lot different than his current situation. Basically, I just wanted him to think REALLY hard, but I would expect him to do that even if she was his age. Hearts are fragile things.

Also I never follow my own advice.
In the months to come, you'll see me fuck up REALLY bad.
It'll be too much fun.

Believe me, I'm not jumping into anything. I probably won't even persue anything at all--but if I did, I would be very careful and very slow moving, that's for sure.

R

Shepherd
04-03-2005, 08:35 PM
Picking up high school chicks when you're 25 seems a little shady. Then again she'll be out of high school and 18 in a year right? I say size up her dad and then make a decision ;)

Actually, she's not in high school. She's graduated and is currently in a college prep school (They're common here).

R

Shepherd
04-03-2005, 08:38 PM
I'd wait until she's 19. Anything under 19 dating anything over 21 or 22 sounds very creepy.

Well, she IS 19 in Korean age ;) .

R

J. R. Scherer
04-03-2005, 08:40 PM
Well, she IS 19 in Korean age ;) .

R

Ah... Rationalization...

Fuck it. Go for it.

Shepherd
04-03-2005, 08:47 PM
Ah... Rationalization...

Fuck it. Go for it.

Actually, I was just joking. I probably WON'T go for it. Maybe friends, nothing more.

R

Angel of Distraction
04-03-2005, 08:48 PM
Actually, I was just joking. I probably WON'T go for it. Maybe friends, nothing more.

R

Rousing chorus of "Do it! Do it!"

alexlannin
04-03-2005, 10:02 PM
My wife's six years my junior.
When I turned sixteen last year and got my license...I could cruise the junior high!

james michael
04-04-2005, 06:46 AM
the mroe i think about this topic, the more i realize my sister just turned 18, and i dont want half of you fuckers around her.... :shifty:

Shepherd
04-04-2005, 06:50 AM
the mroe i think about this topic, the more i realize my sister just turned 18, and i dont want half of you fuckers around her.... :shifty:

So, has your sister ever thought of coming to Korea? :heybaby:

R

james michael
04-04-2005, 07:31 AM
So, has your sister ever thought of coming to Korea? :heybaby:

R
sick sick dirty man... besides, shes skinny with big boobs... shes too good for you...



....



any of you... :-x

SolidGoldBomb
04-04-2005, 08:14 AM
If you dont at least have sex with this girl you are a gay homosexual.

Brian Defferding
04-04-2005, 08:24 AM
So I met this INCREDIBLE girl the other day. She's Korean but absolutely fluent in English (first Korean I've met here without an accent). She's vegetarian (we met in this vegetarian place near my house). We have the same taste in music. She's honest and forward (something Korean women rarely are). And she's obviously into me.

We had this GREAT conversation the first time I met her. And I have to admit that I was totally into her--until she told me how old she was. She's 17. I'm 25. Creepy as all get out.

Normally, I date older women. I like women who are strong and know who they are. But damn, I can't get this girl out of my head.

What do you all think?

R

I didn't read everybody's response to this thread, but from reading your original post I would give dating a try. If you were in America I would DEFINITELY say no, because of many reasons - namely, America is just a completely different culture than South Korea. But give it a shot; don't get too involved though because infatuation can destroy you and turn you inside out. She's so young and I'm sure as she grows up her outlook on life - and you - might change.

But then again, who am I to give advice? I don't know shit. :dunno:

WAKKAJAWAKKA
04-04-2005, 09:02 AM
So I met this INCREDIBLE girl the other day. She's Korean but absolutely fluent in English (first Korean I've met here without an accent). She's vegetarian (we met in this vegetarian place near my house). We have the same taste in music. She's honest and forward (something Korean women rarely are). And she's obviously into me.

We had this GREAT conversation the first time I met her. And I have to admit that I was totally into her--until she told me how old she was. She's 17. I'm 25. Creepy as all get out.

Normally, I date older women. I like women who are strong and know who they are. But damn, I can't get this girl out of my head.

What do you all think?

R

Yes. That's No Big Age Difference. Go For It.

Wayno.

RebootedCorpse
04-04-2005, 09:06 AM
To me, 17 is the issue. Dating some one 8 years younger is fine, but if that 8 years puts her in high school, then it's kind of pervy.

FrancisDavis
04-04-2005, 09:52 AM
The thing that I always find vital in considering a person is the question of age is the following.

if they are old enough to get into a bar without a fake ID, that's okay. If the girl is younger than my brother who is 22, I would not bother because the experience tyhat one grows around would be different and this would cause some static.

badpoet
04-04-2005, 10:09 AM
There's 6 years difference between my girlfriend (also Korean but adopted here as a baby) and myself. She's graduated college, had some jobs, seen some of the world, and is very mature. That being said, sometimes I really feel as if I'm talking to someone who doesn't understand where I'm coming from. There's a large difference even in things like pop culture.

I wouldn't do it were I you. People change a ton between their teens and 23 or so, and getting emotionally invested in someone who could completely change in a couple years isn't a good bet, in my opinion. It's what caused the downfall of my marriage (she was 3 years younger and we started really young). People do change, and they do most of it in their early 20's.

Then again, you only live once. If you really feel a connection and understand that it probably won't go one for more than a couple of years, more power to you.

V-Man
04-04-2005, 10:26 AM
"V-Boy"?


I Turn into V-Man every time i get angry.



You wouldn't like me when i'm angry,



V-Man

Shepherd
04-04-2005, 04:14 PM
sick sick dirty man... besides, shes skinny with big boobs... shes too good for you...



....



any of you... :-x

Never mind. I'm probably the only guy in the world that doesn't go for big boobs.

R

Shepherd
04-04-2005, 04:15 PM
If you dont at least have sex with this girl you are a gay homosexual.

Eh, there are worse things. And if I turn gay, I can make a play for BloodyHell instead of just trying to get with his sister ;) .

R

Shepherd
04-04-2005, 04:17 PM
The thing that I always find vital in considering a person is the question of age is the following.

if they are old enough to get into a bar without a fake ID, that's okay. If the girl is younger than my brother who is 22, I would not bother because the experience tyhat one grows around would be different and this would cause some static.

She's one year shy of bar age here. But the age limit isn't enforced at all.

R

Shepherd
04-04-2005, 04:21 PM
There's 6 years difference between my girlfriend (also Korean but adopted here as a baby) and myself. She's graduated college, had some jobs, seen some of the world, and is very mature. That being said, sometimes I really feel as if I'm talking to someone who doesn't understand where I'm coming from. There's a large difference even in things like pop culture.

I wouldn't do it were I you. People change a ton between their teens and 23 or so, and getting emotionally invested in someone who could completely change in a couple years isn't a good bet, in my opinion. It's what caused the downfall of my marriage (she was 3 years younger and we started really young). People do change, and they do most of it in their early 20's.

Then again, you only live once. If you really feel a connection and understand that it probably won't go one for more than a couple of years, more power to you.


I'm right there with you, and that's my main concern. I think how much I changed from 17-22, and it's nuts. I went from a stupid-ass pothead kid, to a responsible, great student, holding down 2 jobs and in a solid relationship. I was barely recognizable. And THAT'S what would scare me most about this relationship.

But then again, she's not me.

R