An... Interesting Exchange With A Female Friend.

[The Cheap-Arse Film Critic]

Tonight, I was out at a club with a grup of friends, celebrating my friend Jenny's 25th Birthday. It was a good night. There was much dancing, laughing and enjoyment to be had.

Towards the end of the night, I was dancing with another friend of mine, Jo. She had, as she usually does, stolen my glasses and started dancing around wearing them. I lent in close to get them off her, and the next thing I know she's got her arms around me and we're dancing.

Then she starts talking. Well, shouting, really, due to the music, but never mind that.

"Can I ask you something?" she says.

"Of course," I say.

"Are you sad?"

What the fuck?

"What?" asked, confused.

"Are you sad right now?"

"N... no," I answer, slightly nervously. "Why do you ask?"

"Because you always seem sad," she says, stroking the back of my bald head. "Even when you're happy. Please don't be sad."

This is now officially the oddst conversation I've ever had with a womn. And also, maybe, the most near the bone. I mean, I know how I am. Almost everybody here knows how I am. But I thought I'd always done a good job of hiding it from my friends. And for ths girl, who I know, but am not really the best f friends with, to have picked up on it, threw me. I had to reasure her I was fine.

"I'm fine, sweetheart."

"You sure."

"Yeah, I'm fine. I only get like that when I'm drunk, an I'm not drnk tonight." Then, as a joke, I add with a smile, "Between you and me, I think I've got a bit of a drinking problem."

She then gets really serious. "Are you joking?"

And I pause. Am I?

"Yeah," I tell her, and then get the fuck away from her as fast as humanly possible.

Now, ths didn't spoil the night. I still had a great time. But was...

... interesting.

I'll tell you something, though, this is going in the script.

[ZombieSpeedball]

You must not hide your depression well.

[batmanbooyah]

the thing is, i barely know who anyone is here, and i'm here all the time. do i have a shitty memory? yes. can i not remember shit? yes. what was i talking about? oh yeah, if you just don't care about little shit, you'll be really happy. look at me, i'm fucking ecstatic!

[The Cheap-Arse Film Critic]

You must not hide your depression well.

I always thought I was great at hiding it.

That was seriously the most unnerving two minutes if my life.

[bachman]

How is it that you go out often, go to bars often, go to clubs often, have a group of friends, have female friends... and yet you never have sex or have a girlfriend?

This isn't a put-down, it's just kind of... I don't know. Maybe you should ask a friend how to talk to/flirt with girls.

[The Cheap-Arse Film Critic]

How is it that you go out often, go to bars often, go to clubs often, have a group of friends, have female friends... and yet you never have sex or have a girlfriend?

This isn't a put-down, it's just kind of... I don't know. Maybe you should ask a friend how to talk to/flirt with girls.

I'm just a very rare kind of pathetic. I should probably be studied.

[Georgie]

Tonight, I was out at a club with a grup of friends, celebrating my friend Jenny's 25th Birthday. It was a good night. There was much dancing, laughing and enjoyment to be had.

Towards the end of the night, I was dancing with another friend of mine, Jo. She had, as she usually does, stolen my glasses and started dancing around wearing them. I lent in close to get them off her, and the next thing I know she's got her arms around me and we're dancing.

Then she starts talking. Well, shouting, really, due to the music, but never mind that.

"Can I ask you something?" she says.

"Of course," I say.

"Are you sad?"

What the fuck?

"What?" asked, confused.

"Are you sad right now?"

"N... no," I answer, slightly nervously. "Why do you ask?"

"Because you always seem sad," she says, stroking the back of my bald head. "Even when you're happy. Please don't be sad."

This is now officially the oddst conversation I've ever had with a womn. And also, maybe, the most near the bone. I mean, I know how I am. Almost everybody here knows how I am. But I thought I'd always done a good job of hiding it from my friends. And for ths girl, who I know, but am not really the best f friends with, to have picked up on it, threw me. I had to reasure her I was fine.

"I'm fine, sweetheart."

"You sure."

"Yeah, I'm fine. I only get like that when I'm drunk, an I'm not drnk tonight." Then, as a joke, I add with a smile, "Between you and me, I think I've got a bit of a drinking problem."

She then gets really serious. "Are you joking?"

And I pause. Am I?

"Yeah," I tell her, and then get the fuck away from her as fast as humanly possible.

Now, ths didn't spoil the night. I still had a great time. But was...

... interesting.

I'll tell you something, though, this is going in the script.

Well you could've handled the drinking question a bit better. Just replying with a "Yeah!" and then running away doesn't seem like a strong point for what you were saying.

[Albert]

Maybe it was her weird way of flirting.

[The Cheap-Arse Film Critic]

Well you could've handled the drinking question a bit better. Just replying with a "Yeah!" and then running away doesn't seem like a strong point for what you were saying.

I didn't just run away. There were further exchanges, but they wrer geared towards ending the conversation as quickly as possible.

[bachman]

Maybe it was her weird way of flirting.

Possibly. If so, then joking about being an alcoholic and then running away probably wasn't the "coolest" flirt-back.

[Georgie]

I didn't just run away. There were further exchanges, but they wrer geared towards ending the conversation as quickly as possible.

You didn't say that in the original post.

[bachman]

You didn't say that in the original post.

Yeah. C'mon John Kerry, get with it.

[Albert]

Possibly. If so, then joking about being an alcoholic and then running away probably wasn't the "coolest" flirt-back.

Apparently you've never heard of playing hard to get!

[The Cheap-Arse Film Critic]

If she was flirting, then that's a flirt style I don't want anything to do with.

[Georgie]

If she was flirting, then that's a flirt style I don't want anything to do with.

See, where she was going was "Are you sad?"

You say, "Yeah, I am, sometimes,"

She says "Will playing with my boobies help?"

You commence playing with the boobies.

[Matt O'Keefe]

You ever go to a doctor about depression? It might really help. Worked for a few people I know.

[c. page]

If she was flirting, then that's a flirt style I don't want anything to do with.

honestly, man?

i think you could have had her at the point where she said, "don't be sad". a little flirtation could have bumped things up there.

[Greenville 90210]

Smoke weed and fuck these girls, Techno. You'll be happy...until your bag runs out and they start fucking your dealer.

[Amos Moses]

This. Is. Not. Livejournal!

[Greenville 90210]

honestly, man?

i think you could have had her at the point where she said, "don't be sad". a little flirtation could have bumped things up there.


True. If girls are talking/dancing with you- you have a shot. Don't cockblock yourself.

[The Cheap-Arse Film Critic]

You ever go to a doctor about depression? It might really help. Worked for a few people I know.

The truth is, I really don't want to. There's enough wrong with me that makes me feel pathetic as it is. I'd rather not add to it. It may not be smart, but that's my thought process.

[Georgie]

People, you can't give Techno advice...He doesn't listen!

[c. page]

True. If girls are talking/dancing with you- you have a shot. Don't cockblock yourself.

especially when they're stroking your head. (man, that sounds dirty.)

[The Cheap-Arse Film Critic]

This. Is. Not. Livejournal!

I'm not blogging, I'm talking to my friends. If you don't like it, I'm sure there's a conversation about Israel you'll feel more comfrotable taking part in somewhere on the first page.

[bradical]

Possibly. If so, then joking about being an alcoholic and then running away probably wasn't the "coolest" flirt-back.

she was flirting. and that really was a bad flirt-back.

[The Cheap-Arse Film Critic]

People, you can't give Techno advice...He doesn't listen!

I am listening tonight, actually, mostly because I'm not drunk, for once.

[ClintP]

You must not hide your depression well.

Why does he not just be happy. For a guy who is sad and depressed, he sure hangs around a shit ton of women. I never had that many chick friends. I am sure at least one wants to get with him. Put on a smile and go fishing buddy.

[Howlett]

The truth is, I really don't want to. There's enough wrong with me that makes me feel pathetic as it is. I'd rather not add to it. It may not be smart, but that's my thought process.

Seeking help when you're clearly depressed and a self confessed alcoholic wouldn't make you pathetic.

Refusing to "Because I don't really want to" would make you pathetic.

Not trying to be harsh, but I liked you a lot for a long time and I want you happy. Being nice hasn't worked, so I'm going to try blunt.

[The Cheap-Arse Film Critic]

Why does he not just be happy. For a guy who is sad and depressed, he sure hangs around a shit ton of women. I never had that many chick friends. I am sure at least one wants to get with him. Put on a smile and go fishing buddy.

I know almost for a fact that none of them want me.

[bachman]

If she was flirting, then that's a flirt style I don't want anything to do with.

:mistrust:

Um, based on your story, it's sounds very flirty and intimate and "sweet". That's flirting son, and if your reaction to flirting is to "be umcomfortable", then you're not going to have your penis played with anytime soon.

[bradical]

If she was flirting, then that's a flirt style I don't want anything to do with.

she was showing care and concern for you, while dancing and touching your head. lots of chicks like to fix things.

[Howlett]

she was showing care and concern for you, while dancing and touching your head....

The horror....

[The Cheap-Arse Film Critic]

Seeking help when you're clearly depressed and a self confessed alcoholic wouldn't make you pathetic.

Refusing to "Because I don't really want to" would make you pathetic.

Not trying to be harsh, but I liked you a lot for a long time and I want you happy. Being nice hasn't worked, so I'm going to try blunt.

I can't. I'm too afraid to.

[bachman]

so I'm going to try blunt.

Somebody already said "smoke weed and have sex with them".

[The Cheap-Arse Film Critic]

she was showing care and concern for you, while dancing and touching your head. lots of chicks like to fix things.

...

... It was like she was holding up a mirror. I couldn't look away fast enough.

[ClintP]

I know almost for a fact that none of them want me.

They are your friends right? I met my wife from a mutual chick friend that I met at junior college. Clean yourself up, slow your drinking down, adjust your outlook a little and ask them to hook you up.

[The Cheap-Arse Film Critic]

They are your friends right? I met my wife from a mutual chick friend that I met at junior college. Clean yourself up, slow your drinking down, adjust your outlook a little and ask them to hook you up.

Maybe.

[Greenville 90210]

Why does he not just be happy. For a guy who is sad and depressed, he sure hangs around a shit ton of women. I never had that many chick friends. I am sure at least one wants to get with him. Put on a smile and go fishing buddy.

Yeah, really. Fake it til you make it, Techno. Act happy and people will gravitate to you and you'll be happy. Again, don't cockblock yourself.

[The Cheap-Arse Film Critic]

Yeah, really. Fake it til you make it, Techno. Act happy and people will gravitate to you and you'll be happy. Again, don't cockblock yourself.

I do act happy, all the time. At least, I thought I did, until tonight.

[Howlett]

I can't. I'm too afraid to.

FINALLY!!! Finally, a truthful statement!!!

Dude, asking for help when needed is fucking TERRIFYING to most people. That's normal. But the rate you've been going in the last god knows how long, you're on your way to living a bitter, lonely sexless for the rest of your life old age or the more scary though, a very young death.

I've worked in hospitals and so have my parents. I've seen that last one more than once. It's not a pleasant thing to witness.

Being scared to go is fine. I went to therapy a couple of times as a kid about a year after I nearly broke my neck. And while it didn't help me at all with the physical pain, it sure as hell helped me get my head together.

Suck it up, show the balls we all know you have (mainly from putting up with all the shit you put up with here and still keep coming back to) and help yourself. In the end, you'll be happier for it, and those of us who spent a great deal of time having a laugh with you here will be happier too, because we'll know you're on your way to a better life and not a dirtnap before 30.

Just give it a shot man. That's all anyone can ask.

[bradical]

howlett's such a softy. speaks the truth a bit as well.

[The Cheap-Arse Film Critic]

FINALLY!!! Finally, a truthful statement!!!

Dude, asking for help when needed is fucking TERRIFYING to most people. That's normal. But the rate you've been going in the last god knows how long, you're on your way to living a bitter, lonely sexless for the rest of your life old age or the more scary though, a very young death.

I've worked in hospitals and so have my parents. I've seen that last one more than once. It's not a pleasant thing to witness.

Being scared to go is fine. I went to therapy a couple of times as a kid about a year after I nearly broke my neck. And while it didn't help me at all with the physical pain, it sure as hell helped me get my head together.

Suck it up, show the balls we all know you have (mainly from putting up with all the shit you put up with here and still keep coming back to) and help yourself. In the end, you'll be happier for it, and those of us who spent a great deal of time having a laugh with you here will be happier too, because we'll know you're on your way to a better life and not a dirtnap before 30.

Just give it a shot man. That's all anyone can ask.

I just don't want there to be something else wrong with me. I don't want to sit there, again, and here someone else rattle off another reason that I'm not normal. I don't want to be put on more medication. I don't want to feel any more of a fucking freak, anymore of a fucking cripple, than I already do. I don't want it. Frankly, I'd rather be dead.

[Howlett]

howlett's such a softy. speaks the truth a bit as well.

I'll softy you!!!

:Punch:

[ClintP]

Yeah, really. Fake it til you make it, Techno. Act happy and people will gravitate to you and you'll be happy. Again, don't cockblock yourself.

That is all everyone does. Shit, we all have felt like shit and doubted ourselves, but you have to get out there. If you don't try, you will never succeed. I got shot down repeatedly until the right one came along. I knew I was going to get shot down and it hurt like hell, but if you don't at least try, you have no excuse. If you have a bunch of chick friends, you are well on your way if they care about you. I am a damn introvert IT guy who didn't like a bunch of fake friends, and that included chicks. I was pretty down in the gutter too, but like I said, one chick I was semi friends with knew someone, and that is how the story goes.

Also, don't over think it. People everywhere over think the hell out of everything. If you dwell on shit, you will talk yourself out of anything. Go with the flow and DON'T think about it. Also, ask those chick friends point blank to try to hook you up. I did. Trust me... I was practically begging, and yes, I probably sounded pathetic, but it got the job done.

[Howlett]

I just don't want there to be something else wrong with me. I don't want to sit there, again, and here someone else rattle off another reason that I'm not normal. I don't want to be put on more medication. I don't want to feel any more of a fucking freak, anymore of a fucking cripple, than I already do. I don't want it. Frankly, I'd rather be dead.

Who the hell WANTS that? Nobody sane WANTS that! It doesn't change the fact that sometimes that's what happens. And for christ sake man, the Homer Simpson "If I don't see it, it doesn't exist" mentality doesn't work here.

You say you'd rather be dead than find that out. Well I hate to break it to you man, but with that attitude, you're not looking long for this world then.

And the thought that you don't seem to care not only saddens me. It fucking scares me.

[Dark Sasha]

You should have said "Feel the sad" and hug her.

[Jerome Gibbons]

I'm just a very rare kind of pathetic. I should probably be studied.

Heh. That's pretty funny.

[bradical]

I'll softy you!!!

:Punch:

such soft knuckles.

[bradical]

what's normal?

[Howlett]

what's normal?

Boring.

[Greenville 90210]

what's normal?

Ooh. Good question!

[The Cheap-Arse Film Critic]

Boring.

No, it's not. This is just something weirdoes tell themselves to make themselves feel better. I say this as a wierdo. I'd sell my soul to be The Devil to normal for 24 hours.

[Howlett]

No, it's not. This is just something weirdoes tell themselves to make themselves feel better. I say this as a wierdo. I'd sell my soul to be The Devil to normal for 24 hours.

But apparently, you won't seek therapy...

[The Cheap-Arse Film Critic]

But apparently, you won't seek therapy...

No.

[Greenville 90210]

No, it's not. This is just something weirdoes tell themselves to make themselves feel better. I say this as a wierdo. I'd sell my soul to be The Devil to normal for 24 hours.

You didn't answer the question. What is normal?

[Howlett]

No.

Well I'm glad we cleared that up.

*goes back to my weird yet happy life*

[The Cheap-Arse Film Critic]

You didn't answer the question. What is normal?

I don't know. That's the problem. All I know is, it's not this.

[Thomas Mauer]

Techno, I like most of the responses you gave her. You didn't just give straight answers and kept your cool. Toward the end, I guess you realized what you were doing and chickened out, but that's not too bad. that just happened because you were getting a kind of response you aren't familiar with.

Keep talking to the girl, keep your cool and just continue practicing not to chicken out. You'll get better if you keep at it.

[Greenville 90210]

I don't know. That's the problem. All I know is, it's not this.

There is no normal.

Are normal people ones that go out and get laid? Happy couples? People with "grown-up" jobs? Cause some of those people are FUCKED.

[bradical]

No, it's not. This is just something weirdoes tell themselves to make themselves feel better. I say this as a wierdo. I'd sell my soul to be The Devil to normal for 24 hours.

i'd consider it an insult to be called normal. you're wierd? guess what, everyone is.

[The Cheap-Arse Film Critic]

i'd consider it an insult to be called normal.

I'd consider it the greatest compliment I've ever been paid.

[Howlett]

i'd consider it an insult to be called normal. you're wierd? guess what, everyone is.

*ding*

[Greenville 90210]

I'd consider it the greatest compliment I've ever been paid.

Well, skippy, considering you have some of the same problems as other people...guess what? You're normal. Now stop crying and fuck some of these girls.

[bachman]

No, it's not. This is just something weirdoes tell themselves to make themselves feel better. I say this as a wierdo. I'd sell my soul to be The Devil to normal for 24 hours.

At least you're not being over-dramatic or anything...

[Greenville 90210]

At least you're not being over-dramatic or anything...

That's normal.

[Howlett]

At least you're not being over-dramatic or anything...

:rofl:

[The Zevad]

See a therapist. It has done me wonders! Wonders!

[XXXenophile]

If she was flirting, then that's a flirt style I don't want anything to do with.

Every attempt a girl makes with a flirt style with you is something you don't want anything to do with.

You refuse to let them ever attempt anything out of fear of rejection.

[The Cheap-Arse Film Critic]

Every attempt a girl makes with a flirt style with you is something you don't want anything to do with.

You refuse to let them ever attempt anything out of fear of rejection.

Probably truthful.

[XXXenophile]

...

... It was like she was holding up a mirror. I couldn't look away fast enough.

Admission is the first step for help. She knows the real you. Ask for some help.

Otherwise you're going to only ever find any solace posting in the wrestling thread on here doing nothing but feeling sorry for yourself.

Time to Man Up!

[XXXenophile]

Probably truthful.

Trust me take the rejection and move on to the next one. It is not the end of the world.

My female friends are constantly amazed at how there are women out there who can savagely dump on me and show their true colors, and I just brush them off and go to the next one.

Because there will always be someone better. I'll have my moments of depression, but I know I'll find someone who will treat me right.

And so you will. But you've got to get yourself mentally ready to do it.

[The Cheap-Arse Film Critic]

I'm tired. I'm going to go to bed now.

[XXXenophile]

I just don't want there to be something else wrong with me. I don't want to sit there, again, and here someone else rattle off another reason that I'm not normal. I don't want to be put on more medication. I don't want to feel any more of a fucking freak, anymore of a fucking cripple, than I already do. I don't want it. Frankly, I'd rather be dead.

You woudln't be a freak. You'd be normal. EVERYONE's got something that makes them a bit off. And who says you need the medication anyway?

All the therapy I've done has been for sounding board purposes so someone could hear the crap I went through and gave suggestions and advice that didn't sound like I was being patronized.

Be honest with your thoughts and feelings. I'll be the last thing you actually need is meds.

[bradical]

goodnight, techno.

[XXXenophile]

No, it's not. This is just something weirdoes tell themselves to make themselves feel better. I say this as a wierdo. I'd sell my soul to be The Devil to normal for 24 hours.

Heh, what happens when normal means you're not a wrestling fan and you don't like Hornswaggle anymore?

[Mr. E!]

FINALLY!!! Finally, a truthful statement!!!

Dude, asking for help when needed is fucking TERRIFYING to most people. That's normal. But the rate you've been going in the last god knows how long, you're on your way to living a bitter, lonely sexless for the rest of your life old age or the more scary though, a very young death.

I've worked in hospitals and so have my parents. I've seen that last one more than once. It's not a pleasant thing to witness.

Being scared to go is fine. I went to therapy a couple of times as a kid about a year after I nearly broke my neck. And while it didn't help me at all with the physical pain, it sure as hell helped me get my head together.

Suck it up, show the balls we all know you have (mainly from putting up with all the shit you put up with here and still keep coming back to) and help yourself. In the end, you'll be happier for it, and those of us who spent a great deal of time having a laugh with you here will be happier too, because we'll know you're on your way to a better life and not a dirtnap before 30.

Just give it a shot man. That's all anyone can ask.

Quoted for truth!

[Howlett]

Quoted for truth!

It terrifies me how often I see that in response to one of my posts these days :scared:

[Mr. E!]

It terrifies me how often I see that in response to one of my posts these days :scared:

Well, just remember, even a broken clock is right twice a day.
Or once if you are in the military.
Unless it is digital, because then if it is broken, it just doesn't turn on at all...
Yeah.
:)
The truth is, you're getting smarter as you get older. Happens to the best of us!

[Howlett]

Well, just remember, even a broken clock is right twice a day.
Or once if you are in the military.
Unless it is digital, because then if it is broken, it just doesn't turn on at all...
Yeah.
:)
The truth is, you're getting smarter as you get older. Happens to the best of us!

True story, my dad had a digital watch that stopped working once. But the time stayed on the screen :scared:

[Joe Kalicki]

Shoulda pulled your dick out.

[Mr. E!]

True story, my dad had a digital watch that stopped working once. But the time stayed on the screen :scared:

Well, thinking about that's just gonna keep me awake tonight!:-?

[Howlett]

Well, thinking about that's just gonna keep me awake tonight!:-?

:lol:

[I AM GROOT!]

There was so much potential to this thread...so much...:nonono2:

[Howlett]

There was so much potential to this thread...so much...:nonono2:

Not every thread can be another "Handed in my resignation letter" off the bat man. GIVE US SOME TIME!!! :mad:

[I AM GROOT!]

Not every thread can be another "Handed in my resignation letter" off the bat man. GIVE US SOME TIME!!! :mad:

But nine pages, man. Nine. Not even a "Is Fidel Castro dead?" worthy. :-x

[Howlett]

But nine pages, man. Nine. Not even a "Is Fidel Castro dead?" worthy. :-x

We're burned out dammit :mad:

[I AM GROOT!]

We're burned out dammit :mad:


Excuses, excuses. Would Bendis think to himself, "Have I put too much anal into this comic?" No. Would Pat Loika think twice before posting about his latest job story? Hell no. Would Todd keep from changing his BB name for a day? I'd bet my porn collection that he wouldn't!

I think you see where I'm going here. Don't let me down, Benbo!! :rock:

[Akira]

i have so many things i want to say. so much advice i'd love to give. but he wouldn't listen and nothing would change except i would've wasted my time. i admire the rest of you for never giving up on techno, but in my experience, no one ever changes until they're ready. and no one but them can decide when (if ever) that will be.

[Howlett]

Excuses, excuses. Would Bendis think to himself, "Have I put too much anal into this comic?" No. Would Pat Loika think twice before posting about his latest job story? Hell no. Would Todd keep from changing his BB name for a day? I'd bet my porn collection that he wouldn't!

I think you see where I'm going here. Don't let me down, Benbo!! :rock:

:evil:

[Joe Kalicki]

If a girl is drunk and touching you, buy her another drink.

[I AM GROOT!]

:evil:


:banned:



If a girl is drunk and touching you, buy her another drink.

I happily second this.

[Joe Kalicki]

I happily second this.

It's just common sense, really.

[Greenville 90210]

If a girl is drunk and touching you, buy her another drink.

That should be on a fucking fortune cookie.

[WillieLee]

Shocking.

[Matt Jay]

I just don't want there to be something else wrong with me. I don't want to sit there, again, and here someone else rattle off another reason that I'm not normal. I don't want to be put on more medication. I don't want to feel any more of a fucking freak, anymore of a fucking cripple, than I already do. I don't want it. Frankly, I'd rather be dead.

http://amaldo.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2007/04/CRIMTPB+COV2.jpg

[Ryudo]

If someone is concerned and wants to help you out, let them.

[I AM GROOT!]

Since when did a girl expressing interest in someone become such a depressing thing? :-?