I AM GROOT!
04-01-2007, 11:46 AM
...and felt this large level of respect you had for them go out the window?
Okay, this is going to get kind of long, but at my job (at a bank), I've worked with the customer service manager there for the full two years he's been employed with the company, and we've also been friends during that time. Very nice guy. He's 26 and has been married to his wife for three years. Up until about a year ago, they didn't have any children because his wife was supposedly not able to have them. But they wanted children, so they went through the process of adopting this beautiful six-month year old boy (he's now almost one-and-a-half). Anyway, several months after that, we find out that his wife is now actually pregnant, and she just had the baby a couple of weeks ago. Everyone at work is extremely happy for him and his wife.
Anyway, here's where it gets sticky...because of his position, he basically manages the teller line at our branch. For the most part, that department has been mostly made up of females. One of the girls hired by him and our branch manager about a year ago is...well, she's one of those girls whose life always has to have some drama in it (she was 19 when she was hired, and is now 20). Anyway, her conversations with the rest of the employees always revolved around sex, drinking, her dramatic friends, etc. Our customer service manager tried to a "friend" and give her advice when she needed it, which was fine earlier on. About a month into her working there, she finds out she's pregnant by this guy who she was about to break up with. I've met this guy, and he's the biggest piece of trash I've ever met. He's also a former drug addict and cheated on this girl multiple times. Despite this, she decides that they should do the right thing with this baby and get married, which they did last June.
Back at work, this girl was lazy from the first moment she was hired but got even lazier as her pregnancy continued and used any excuse she could to leave (by asking the customer service manager, who gave in). At the same time, she started drama with some of the other female tellers, who eventually went to their customer service manager to tell him. He spoke to her but didn't really "discipline" her at all. The drama continued, and when some of the female tellers she had started the drama with just simply stopped talking to her, she ran to the manager and told him. He ended up chewing out the girls she was telling on. Basically, she's a spoiled brat and kind of a bitch.
Anyway, in December, she finally had her baby and went on her six-week maternity leave. We all had hoped she wouldn't come back, but she did. The drama just picked up where it left off, and, despite what happened between her and other people, the customer service manager took her side with everything. This really started to irritate everyone, despite the fact that the manager, like I said above, is really a cool guy, but none of us could figure out why he wouldn't do something about her. At the same time, her ass of a husband supposedly has cheated on her, and she plans on getting a divorce.
Fast forward to the beginning of March, and the manager's wife ends up having her baby, and he takes a few weeks off to be with her. In that time, this girl does her own thing like there's no management there. Also, even though she's planning on going through her divorce with deadbeat husband, she also tells several of us that she ended up sleeping with one of his friends (the best man at their wedding) and that she might like him. Like I said, this girl needs constant drama.
One night about a week ago, I get this call from one of the girls in the teller line who I'm friends with, and she told me that her, this girl, and a few other people who had worked that day (I had been off) went out to eat, and the girl, after the others had left, had told her that she needed to get something off her chest. My friend tells me that this girl told her that she's been having an affair with the customer service manager, but she's not sure if she should continue it.
I'm floored at this point because 1) I never suspected that the manager was the type of guy to do that (because he's always been wonderful with his wife and now two kids), 2) I can't imagine when they'd find time, what with this girl having her baby and the various other things going on with her, and him taking care of his wife and the new baby, and 3) this girl might lie (although, I can't imagine why about this particular thing). I spoke to my friend for thirty more minutes after that, and both of us had a hard time believing what the girl had said, wanting to give him the benefit of the doubt.
On Friday, however, my friend and I took our lunches together, and she says that this girl had joined her and some other people at dinner again the previous night, and that this girl had shown her text messages back and forth between her and our customer service manager, asking "if he'd made a decision about his wife yet" and that he had replied that he didn't know but that he cared for her. At that point, both my friend and I are angry at him, that he'd do that to his wife. He finally comes back from his time off tomorrow, and I really don't know how I can look him in the face and not say anything.
What's funny, though, is that the girl is sleeping with her husband's friend still (the one who was their best man), and I'm betting that our customer service manager doesn't know this. It's very tempting to bring it up at work tomorrow while he's standing there to see how or if he reacts. He has to know this girl is a piece of work, and I can't see why he'd waste his time and ruin his marriage for her.
So, yeah, I've lost a ton of respect for him. Why can be people be so stupid?
Okay, this is going to get kind of long, but at my job (at a bank), I've worked with the customer service manager there for the full two years he's been employed with the company, and we've also been friends during that time. Very nice guy. He's 26 and has been married to his wife for three years. Up until about a year ago, they didn't have any children because his wife was supposedly not able to have them. But they wanted children, so they went through the process of adopting this beautiful six-month year old boy (he's now almost one-and-a-half). Anyway, several months after that, we find out that his wife is now actually pregnant, and she just had the baby a couple of weeks ago. Everyone at work is extremely happy for him and his wife.
Anyway, here's where it gets sticky...because of his position, he basically manages the teller line at our branch. For the most part, that department has been mostly made up of females. One of the girls hired by him and our branch manager about a year ago is...well, she's one of those girls whose life always has to have some drama in it (she was 19 when she was hired, and is now 20). Anyway, her conversations with the rest of the employees always revolved around sex, drinking, her dramatic friends, etc. Our customer service manager tried to a "friend" and give her advice when she needed it, which was fine earlier on. About a month into her working there, she finds out she's pregnant by this guy who she was about to break up with. I've met this guy, and he's the biggest piece of trash I've ever met. He's also a former drug addict and cheated on this girl multiple times. Despite this, she decides that they should do the right thing with this baby and get married, which they did last June.
Back at work, this girl was lazy from the first moment she was hired but got even lazier as her pregnancy continued and used any excuse she could to leave (by asking the customer service manager, who gave in). At the same time, she started drama with some of the other female tellers, who eventually went to their customer service manager to tell him. He spoke to her but didn't really "discipline" her at all. The drama continued, and when some of the female tellers she had started the drama with just simply stopped talking to her, she ran to the manager and told him. He ended up chewing out the girls she was telling on. Basically, she's a spoiled brat and kind of a bitch.
Anyway, in December, she finally had her baby and went on her six-week maternity leave. We all had hoped she wouldn't come back, but she did. The drama just picked up where it left off, and, despite what happened between her and other people, the customer service manager took her side with everything. This really started to irritate everyone, despite the fact that the manager, like I said above, is really a cool guy, but none of us could figure out why he wouldn't do something about her. At the same time, her ass of a husband supposedly has cheated on her, and she plans on getting a divorce.
Fast forward to the beginning of March, and the manager's wife ends up having her baby, and he takes a few weeks off to be with her. In that time, this girl does her own thing like there's no management there. Also, even though she's planning on going through her divorce with deadbeat husband, she also tells several of us that she ended up sleeping with one of his friends (the best man at their wedding) and that she might like him. Like I said, this girl needs constant drama.
One night about a week ago, I get this call from one of the girls in the teller line who I'm friends with, and she told me that her, this girl, and a few other people who had worked that day (I had been off) went out to eat, and the girl, after the others had left, had told her that she needed to get something off her chest. My friend tells me that this girl told her that she's been having an affair with the customer service manager, but she's not sure if she should continue it.
I'm floored at this point because 1) I never suspected that the manager was the type of guy to do that (because he's always been wonderful with his wife and now two kids), 2) I can't imagine when they'd find time, what with this girl having her baby and the various other things going on with her, and him taking care of his wife and the new baby, and 3) this girl might lie (although, I can't imagine why about this particular thing). I spoke to my friend for thirty more minutes after that, and both of us had a hard time believing what the girl had said, wanting to give him the benefit of the doubt.
On Friday, however, my friend and I took our lunches together, and she says that this girl had joined her and some other people at dinner again the previous night, and that this girl had shown her text messages back and forth between her and our customer service manager, asking "if he'd made a decision about his wife yet" and that he had replied that he didn't know but that he cared for her. At that point, both my friend and I are angry at him, that he'd do that to his wife. He finally comes back from his time off tomorrow, and I really don't know how I can look him in the face and not say anything.
What's funny, though, is that the girl is sleeping with her husband's friend still (the one who was their best man), and I'm betting that our customer service manager doesn't know this. It's very tempting to bring it up at work tomorrow while he's standing there to see how or if he reacts. He has to know this girl is a piece of work, and I can't see why he'd waste his time and ruin his marriage for her.
So, yeah, I've lost a ton of respect for him. Why can be people be so stupid?